1. Make eye contact
The most important rule is to look the girl in the eyes. The fact that you should not stare at the chest is perhaps obvious, but a lengthy look past the interlocutor or a delay in looking at clothes can also spoil the impression.

Eye contact is an incredibly powerful tool for creating rapport between people. More than 20 years ago, psychologist Arthur Aron experimentally proved that people can fall in love in a few minutes just by looking into each other's eyes.

By avoiding eye contact, you betray your self-doubt.
. Don't try to impress. Just chat
Some believe that women love men exclusively with high status and income. This statement is partially justified, but this does not mean that during the first conversation you need to talk about your professional and financial success.

Many guys are sure that the more attractive the girl, the higher her bar of requests in relation to the opposite sex. As a result of this erroneous opinion, light flirting turns into resume reading.

The more people talk about their achievements, the more they show their need for approval. The tendency to arrogance betrays a poor fellow in a person who is desperately trying to fill the void in his life.

It is important to understand that being impressed is not the same as being passionate.

. Don't focus on yourself
Unsuccessful womanizers often talk too much about themselves. The problem is that this is not the best way to connect with other people. This attitude can turn a conversation into a competition. Who will say first? How can you change the subject to yourself? It all looks like intellectual masturbation. It is unlikely that after such contact people will have a pleasant impression of communicating with each other.
Examples of Good Questions
What places and countries would you like to visit?
What are you most proud of in your life?
Do you want to become famous? What exactly would you like to be famous for?
What would you do if you had absolute freedom and a luck potion?
What superpower would you like to acquire?
What do you like most about your work? And what is less?

4. Look for common interests
The path to a pleasant and easy conversation lies through the exploration and discussion of common interests. Remember all the tortured conversations that began to take shape only after one of the interlocutors mentioned a movie, book or series. It only takes a couple of things that you both love very much and you are on your way to becoming best friends.

We instinctively sympathize with those who are similar to us. Having one interest makes us think that we can agree on other things as well. The more you have in common with a person, the more comfortable he is with you. As the level of comfort increases, so does the level of sympathy.

Finding out that you love the same cocktail or went to the same school will give you a lot more than knowing that you both just love to eat.
5. In order not to be nervous, do not dwell on the outcome of the conversation.
Stress during the first minutes of a conversation with a girl is difficult to completely eliminate or hide. There is nothing terrible in this, because there is a certain beauty in a slight excitement. An easy way to keep emotional tension to a minimum is to not focus on the outcome of the conversation.

It is the expectation of the result and the fear that it will not come true that is the main cause of stress when talking with a girl. We focus on our goal in such a way that we cannot think of anything else. This thought comes from us like a bad smell, leaving an imprint on everything we do and say. We do not participate in the conversation, but only analyze every word or gesture.

Letting go of any expectations frees you from worry. Yes, it would be great to get the girl's number, but what if she refuses? Nothing wrong with that. The very fact that you have taken the first step is already progress. Now you can enjoy communication, learn, try and not be afraid of attractive girls. Experience is a result in itself. And this result could be the start of something really interesting.
Love and be loved Lady Anna