But regardless of how you look, how you position yourself is important. This is where you need to work on self-esteem. Pay attention: a seemingly nondescript-looking young lady is walking, but with her head raised so proudly, as if she had just been informed of the victory in the Miss Universe contest. On the contrary, a pretty girl is sitting in the bus, but she is trapped like a gray mouse. The reason is obvious - different polarities of self-esteem. In one case, someone tried to overestimate it, and in another - it was lowered to nowhere. How to level the arrogance?

For this, you need to clearly formulate why you need it and whether it is needed at all. If you are ready to fight for the recognition of yourself as a Woman with a capital letter, start small - love yourself. If you don't love yourself, society feels it perfectly and begins to absorb you, turning you into a gray mass. But you are not like that, you are a person. And quite a lot! You have many talents, but for some reason you are shy to show them.

To begin with, you need to set goals for yourself and, after writing them down on paper, hang them on the mirror. Every morning, after taking a shower, look in the mirror - you can!
The first is to love yourself. Cut yourself off from the outside world with some hobby, something that only you will know about. Maybe it will be embroidery, maybe belly dance, maybe learning languages - choose. But don't tell anyone about it. You will have a little secret that will make you look good in your own eyes - you will have something that many do not have. This is intrigue!

The second is to learn to walk straight. you are the queen It is you who allow people to communicate with you, it is you who choose whom to be friends with. Remember the phrase well: "This rose did not bloom for him." Let her be your guide through life. Because people are different and there are many of them, but you are the only one.

Third, expand your vocabulary. If you don't know the meaning of any word that our language is littered with, be sure to find out what it is. An erudite young lady always discourages male interest. Although they say that they don't like smart people - it's nonsense. You just need to be reasonably smart. Your gentleman will be very pleased to go out with you in public, when you can easily parry the attacks of "socialites" - he will be happy. You just need to be able to keep silent when a man shines with intelligence. That's all.

Never worry about your appearance. You are so alone. And for sure, somewhere HE is looking for someone just like YOU. Be yourself. Listen to your favorite music, watch movies that you liked, do not blindly follow fashion: because it is rapidly changing, and people lose themselves in the pursuit of it. Enjoy life and be happy with yourself!