Open to love is a wise and sensitive guide for all those who are tired and frustrated with the search for the right partner and are willing to discover a way to attract them to themselves. Here you will find a sophisticated seven-week program that will guide you step by step to identify and remove obstacles, release toxic bonds and open to conscious relationship and love. The author very openly shares her personal experience, which she interweaves with the inspiring stories of her clients, and now you can get a taste of the book.
Sometimes I feel despondent when women explain to me that they don't need a man. As if "needing a man" is something like "needing a wheelchair". If I let someone in, I will also have to rely on them. That's exactly how it should be. I need a lot from the people around me, and I hope that they trust me enough to allow themselves to need something from me as well.
I understand that we carry with us unhealed wounds from the past, which manifest themselves as needs in the present. We feel that we have to hide our needs, afraid that we will frighten anyone who approaches us with them. On the one hand, we don't want to seem "too demanding", but on the other hand, we disconnect ourselves from our needs. We add the legitimate ones to the needs we perceive as excessive, and end up swallowing them all anyway. However, this paradoxically increases our hunger, because not having any needs in relation to others is not natural. If we try to pretend that no needs exist, or consider them pathological, this hunger eats more and more into our hearts.
Humans are not made to live in isolation. We were born to nurture relationships. We don't get much in life without connecting with others. So you better stop trying to get rid of the need for love, kindness, respect and closeness and start taking it seriously instead. Cultivate relationships with people who are able and willing to respond kindly when you ask them for something, instead of staying with people who don't and you keep hoping they'll change.
Male and female needs are generally different. A woman needs to feel that she is listened to and cared for in a relationship. She longs for a man to notice her, want her and adore her. She needs to feel appreciated by her man and needs a partner who cares about her feelings. She needs a man who can anticipate her wishes and fulfill them without her having to ask him. She needs a man who keeps his word. She needs to always be able to count on him and to feel safe with him.
Men, on the other hand, need to feel needed. If his partner shows him recognition and appreciation for his achievements, he will do well. All too often it happens that a woman appreciates big achievements, but does not notice the little things that her partner does every day to please her. A man needs recognition even for little things. He needs to be accepted as he is. If a man feels admiration, love and respect, he will flourish. A loving partner who gives a man courage and inspiration will awaken the best in him.
It is very important to examine and understand one's own needs in order to be able to make the right decision to whom to open (or not open) the heart. At the same time, we must not judge and blame ourselves for having these needs. Until you take full responsibility for what you want and need in a relationship, you're going to waste a lot of time with people who either don't have what you want or aren't willing to give it to you for some reason.