A crisis is when the bridges behind you collapse because living in the old way is no longer possible, and ahead of you there are no bridges yet, as new interaction hasn't been understood or established. Of course, you can try to fix and repair what's damaged and stay where everything is clear, but it's difficult, painful, and frightening. However, there's another path – to build a new bridge ahead and open up new prospects.

As a rule, crises are turning points in life, accompanied by reevaluation and redirection of personal values and goals. It's important to dare, take risks, step forward, and begin constructing a new bridge.

When you're alone, overcoming a crisis rests solely on you. But when there's another person who's experiencing the crisis with you, then it requires teamwork. And that's a whole different story… You might encounter misunderstanding, unwillingness to move forward. In such conditions, it becomes impossible to overcome the crisis using familiar methods, and new rules agreed upon by both sides haven't yet been established. This threatens the existing relationship.

During the initial stages of a crisis, partners' interactions resemble patterns of childhood behavior. We directly or indirectly convey dissatisfaction with our communication and attempt to immediately alleviate it with behaviors that are familiar to us.

But as a rule, we encounter resistance. Confrontation, aggression, hurt feelings, manipulation intensify. Our perception of the partner and their behavior becomes distorted, and biased opinions form. Communication only brings negative emotions. Thoughts or discussions about parting arise.
In such situations, it's important to remember:
1. Any relationship can be terminated at any moment. Sometimes realizing this motivates us to nurture the relationship, while other times it empowers us to end it.
2. Understanding that relationships are not for comfort but for growth helps set goals and move forward with the partner.
3. We are free individuals; we don't follow anyone. Each of us builds our own bridge, and if we like our partner's bridge, we can cross it for a while, but we also have the right to build our own. It's not necessary to break up. These are independent relationships.
4. You're okay. All people are like this. Everyone experiences crises, at all times, with everyone. This understanding removes the feeling of uniqueness and hopelessness.
In a crisis, ask yourself 5 questions:

"Who am I?"

"Who am I to this world?"

"Where am I?"

"Where am I going?"

"Why am I going there?"

Listen to yourself and build your bridge. Those interested in yours will walk alongside you or build their own next to yours. And these will be two beautiful bridges side by side!

Don't run from a crisis – don't miss the chance to become better. ❤️