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Love means many things to different people.
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After reading Plato symposium , and many other great reads about life and love.
I'm left with the opinion in how to truly love someone is by respecting yourself with humility.
No one is perfect! We all know that!
So when I started to truly search for love. I discovered to search out myself first.
People view love vastly differently from each other. A great example you will see this super model with this strange looking man. But they are extremely happy with one another. Or you will see this super hunk of man with just a normal looking woman. Tall with short, thin person with heavy person.
But oddly enough they are much more happier than just a normal couple.
Why ?
The fact is they discovered each other's inner core. What truly makes each person unique in their own way.
And it matched their core wants and needs of one another. They discover each other's inner beauty , hearts , minds and souls.
But is this truly enough ?
The answer to that I discovered was NO!
They both had the same core beliefs, values , morals and ethics. They also saw things very similar as how life really is to each other. So only small compromises were needed.
They both made huge sacrifices for one another to make each other very happy.
Because they felt the other persons happiness was more important to them personally as a whole.
But in return so did their partner do the same for them.
Falling in love is easy staying in love is difficult. So how does someone stay in love with another? Was the question that haunted me. So I reflected back to my great grandparents who were married 67 years. Both of them were born in Norway. Then my great grandfather moved here. Then through writing letters he found his wife in Norway . She sailed on a ship by herself to be with him. Never once meeting him until she came here. Both mailed each other black and white photos so they knew what each other looked like.
During the course of their writing they discovered each other's cores.
They never talked about the basics ever.
They pressed each other for tough ideologies and opinions. After discovering each other out. My great grandmother said here.
Upon arriving still uncertain exactly what her future husband looked like in person they met.
They did everything together . They had to just to survive back in those days.
It wasn't mans work or woman's work it was our work they believed in.
Shared responsibility for everything in their lives. Which made their bond grow so strong . My mother told me the one thing they did together was take naps together for about 10 to 15 minutes everyday . No sex but just cuddled up and laid on the bed holding each other.
My great grandfather said that was the best part of their day.
Just peace and harmony total silence. Just the two of them being with one another.
They had 10 children when they napped everyone napped. No one reading playing games. Just laying down with your eyes closed.
It was that degree of intimacy they found together . That removed daily stresses of life.
As my great grandfather said it's about discovering the harmony in oneself first. Then encouraging your partner to find it with you. Once you do love is for sure to blossom inside of the both of you.
Intimacy and love are about peace and harmony with another .
It's not about power or control or anything else.
It's the smallest of things that bind those big things together . As different as it may seem. Or hard to believe it's true.
Expressions of love can from a glance , hand holding, a slight touch, a hug or even the smallest kiss like those a child gives you. Mean more to you than just sex or pure passion . Because they are given straight from the heart and soul.
So remember it's the smallest of things that defines the person.
And happiness can be found in the simplest gesture in good faith.
Remember a woman builds a home. A man builds a house.
But if they work together they build a strong happy family that lives in a home protected by the house. Filled with emotions , memories and love .
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