So, if you feel like you're not getting support in your relationship, ask yourself what support means to you. How would you like to receive it? In what form? Perhaps it's advice, or it's your partner helping with your financial difficulties, silent hugs, or the opportunity for your partner to listen while you vent or express frustration. It could be your partner sharing their experience to help you solve a situation, discussing what happened, jointly seeking a solution, or simply allowing you some time alone to think. Maybe it's even a "magical nudge" from your partner. Who knows...

Therefore, you can communicate to your partner in what form you need support. It's best to do this using words – direct and clear. For instance: "Right now, I just want you to hold me and empathize." Or: "I understand that I made a mistake, please don't remind me of it." Also: "I just want to scream and vent right now. It's not about you; I'm just angry. Can I do that now? Can you handle it?" And many other variations that suit you. The important thing is that the form is straightforward and presented as a request, not a hint, accusation, demand, or passive aggression.

Otherwise, any support can turn into belittling or denying feelings. For example, if your partner believes that a "magical nudge" would be supportive, while you need silent hugs or the opportunity to vent, without prior communication, it will be difficult to understand each other, and finding solace will be near impossible. Such a situation can lead to conflicts and mutual hurt feelings. Instead of support, you receive accusations, uncertainty, doubts, and anxiety. And you wanted something completely different, right?❤️