Not every man or woman is the same as how they see showing signs of affection and love.
Yes we all agree on the basics. But many do not. Each culture has its own personal beliefs as well the individual.
I will give you some clear examples of this from previous experiences.
In Eastern Europe you give odd number of flowers in the US men give even numbers. I know in Eastern Europe give even number of flowers is for funerals.
I have dated women who hated cholocates or candy. And did they tell me that when I gave them to them . One said do you wish to make me fat ? Another said I hate the taste of cholocate.
I actually had some women get offended by me giving them flowers. Yes that is true ! I was told why did you destroy something so beautiful just to make me happy. Next time buy me a plant.
So men are left in a complex web of finding out how to please their woman.
I have had women say all men give roses can't you be more creative ?
So pleasing a lady can be a challenging task at times.
Also I've had women say to me you did not need to spend that much on me. Are you foolish with your money?
Or I bet you do this to every woman to try and impress her?
So ladies it's hard for a man to know what exactly to do to please you.
I've even had a woman say are you trying to buy my love.
Every time I was left confused and will admit a little hurt as well taken back by these comments to me.
After
Then at once I remember what my mother said about my father.
She talked about how my father got to know her. Not part of her but all of her.
The good the bad and ugly parts. As she had the opportunity to know him in the same way.
She said your father was reserved at first I thought he was just cheap. We never went any where special . No fancy dates. No candies nothing out of ordinary . All my girlfriends told me to leave him . So on a date I confronted him about all of this. He looked at me with this strong straight face and said these words to me.
If I treated every woman like a princess. How would my wife feel ? My mother panicked and said your married????
He said no I am not !!!!
But I know when I get married my wife will know I never showered every girl in the valley with just mere tokens of my affections. That she was the only woman to get all of my affections for she was the only woman worthy of his love in his eyes.
Now every culture has different traditions and beliefs. So it's important you know his as he knows yours.
Even ideologies can be vastly different. Based off of personal experiences.
Some women love roses some women love different flowers.
I once teased a group of ladies I knew.
It was a basic humility test. I said my next wife gets a bread tie for a wedding ring. Oh did I get fast reactions from that statement. And did the comments fly out at me. But one lady said stop to the rest and said that would be good for me. ( she was married to a friend of mine ).
Then all the other women started making more comments to her and me.
The lady who said she would accept the bread tie. Then asked me why would I give my wife a bread tie for a ring ?
Then all the ladies turned to me staring me down fiercely . Just waiting for my answer. I smiled at them all and said I'm a hopeless romantic . The ladies started to laugh a bread tie ???? I said yes !!!
For the gift of life is bread. It's what God dropped down from the heavens to feed the people in the desert .
For he did more than just nourished their bodies . God nourished their heart minds and souls with that gift of bread he fed them with. Ánd thats my intention with my wife when I find her. You can find food every where. But to feed her heart mind and soul with love is completely different . So I will give her this bread tie as a rememberance of my intentions with her. My commitment to do my best.
My point here love has nothing to do without beauty we all age. It has nothing to do with chemistry, attraction, lust , desire, spark or any of those water down descriptions . It has to feed the heart mind and soul of the person before the body. Other wise it just won't last.
Expressions of love can come in the simplest forms to the largest.
Some people want humor but not a comedian . Some want intelligence .
Understanding what you need from your partner and them understanding what they need is the main point here.
Love is filling the heart mind and soul of the other person..
So open up be original be different . Take the risk. Sing off key that other person might believe you have a voice of a angel or music star.
Nothing ventured nothing gained.
Also everyone dating or trying to set up a possible relationship from distances.
People have their own lives there to.
They may not respond as quickly or the way you want them to.
Love takes time to set up. Love is about growing old , devotion, patience , tolerance and acceptance of things.
And the biggest thing is trust !!!!
Don't rush to judge . Be frank and very candor with people. Love never demands!
But most importantly be honest . We are all on here because we believe it exists.