Control is a psychological defense that emerged when it was necessary, but now that need no longer exists... and, above all, a person tries to protect themselves from themselves. But our task is to learn to control ourselves and to let go of control over others, and most importantly, to stop controlling ourselves.

At the same time, the illusion of control is one of the positive illusions in psychology... it allows us to feel good, maintain self-confidence, and avoid discomfort, but all of this can only be felt for a short time.

Realizing that a person cannot control everything that happens in their life causes fear, helplessness, stress, and strong discomfort... This leads not only to psychological tension but also to physical tension. Physical tension raises many health questions.

Constantly being in tension, we lose a lot of our resources - laziness sets in, fatigue, people suffer from constant insomnia and anxiety. Lack of energy generates many negative thoughts that erode us from the inside. Negative thoughts attract even more chaos into our lives and continue to drain our life resources.

People who are insecure and have low self-esteem are more susceptible to control. For them, control is an illusion of self-assurance, in their life, and in the situation they are in.

Control is a struggle with oneself and with the surrounding world. Internal tension grows because a person tries to control everything. And if something doesn't go according to plan, it turns into a catastrophe, devaluing oneself and one's achievements.

Sometimes it's worth considering learning humility and stopping the pressure on oneself, stopping demanding the impossible from oneself, what is not currently available in your life.

With the help of the illusion of control, a person clings to old patterns, to an old life... does not let go of what has already outlived itself and resists the new, which can change life for the better.

Control does not help to get rid of negative emotions, it does not help to be happy in relationships, it does not help to succeed.

For example, controlling emotions does not help to get rid of irritability and any negative manifestations... constant control of emotions is suppression, a great waste of energy, and the more a person tries to control themselves, the more likely they are to have a nervous breakdown. Emotions do not need to be controlled, they need to be learned to accept as a part of oneself and learn to manage them so that they do not control you.

Another example, in relationships, one partner constantly tries to control the other... such behavior often irritates and repels, thereby destroying relationships. In relationships, control can only bring destruction; trust and mutual understanding are more important.

We always have a choice, to keep everything under control, living in constant tension or to let go of ourselves and the situation, to free ourselves from constant pressure and the burden of responsibility for others... Only we ourselves decide whether to go on our way lightly or to drag a heavy burden that only creates obstacles in movement.

Be honest and sincere with yourself, ask yourself, "Does control help me feel happy?" Yes, many things happen in life, and we cannot control everything, but this is our experience... and thanks to this understanding, we learn to accept ourselves and the world as it is.