1. Mistrust of the partner.

Excessive jealousy, desire for control, inability to be yourself, fear of relaxing in a relationship are symptoms of mistrusting your partner. More often than not, it is the result of past pain and anxiety about the future.
What to do.

Work through past relationship traumas, complete the unfinished, let go of stuck feelings, tell your partner about your fears and make a promise to yourself to take care of yourself and walk away from the traumatic relationship rather than waiting, hoping your partner will change.

2. Claims are heard more often than contentment.

Often people perceive good things as the norm and see no point in talking about it. But dissatisfaction is expressed more readily, because it is impossible to tolerate, he will think that with me so can!
Talk about what causes discomfort is important and necessary, but no more than to note aloud positive moments. Think about it, if you have nothing to admire and nothing to thank your partner for, what are you doing in this relationship?

What to do?

Remember the sandwich rule when you want to make comments: praise-criticize-praise.

3- Mother-daughter games.

When the husband becomes a son, who must forever be raised and controlled and directed, or the wife plays the role of an infantile girl who can not decide anything on her own - it quickly gets boring. Children always take more in a relationship than they give. The resource is spent unevenly and poorly replenished, which can cause a desire to seek fulfillment somewhere on the side. And it doesn't matter from what role.

What to do.

Sort out your roles. Answer the questions: Who am I? How old am I? What am I like? What would I like to be? What do I need to do to start moving toward a better version of myself?


4. Sacrifice.

Sacrifice always involves expecting a return on investment from the one being sacrificed in the form of gratitude or care, help, money, etc. The sacrifice is giving up oneself and one's desires in the name of and poor is the person on whose altar these sacrifices are made. He's a debtor, even though he never borrowed. And no one likes being a debtor. It's alienating. The result - disappointment in the partner, in himself, in life, the feeling of a wasted life.

What to do?

Don't sacrifice. Give gratuitously, if there is a desire, and always remember about yourself and your needs. This is your life and no one owes you anything, nor do you owe anyone else anything. Find ways to want to do what you "should" do or delegate. But no wailing like, "I wasted the best years of my life on you" remember, it was your choice.

5. Unspoken.

You alone know how much remains repressed and unspoken inside. And what is unknown to no one, is how the partner should guess about the metamorphosis of the soul! To help him stupid in the course go manipulation, insults, innuendo, showy breakups, and what is there and sex is not sin to blackmail for a just cause!

So it's all a game of roulette. Up to a time carries and even helps, until one fine moment will not accumulate fatigue from these games and misunderstandings. Relationships will become conflictual, and then completely come to naught.

What to do?

Gain courage to talk about your feelings, desires, needs directly and frankly. If the partner will not listen to you and try to understand... and you need him?

I hope I was able to help you. And your days are filled with love