My greetings to all ladies and gentlemen! I hope that your search is going well! I’d like to share my thoughts with you about some of the common issues that lead to misunderstanding between men and women. Of course I am speaking on behalf of a lady – a Ukrainian woman who grew up in Ukraine but travelled a lot around the globe. We are all brought up in particular culture and we always carry some traits of this culture throughout our lives to some extent. It’s important to know and understand these nuances if your partner is from another culture. I will be speaking as representative of Slavic culture. I’d like to ask all the ladies to respect the culture and way of life of the gentlemen here, and don’t forget please that it takes 2 to tango, you also need to make some adaptation to his way of life and views.
So let’s talk about 5 points, 5 differences in our cultures that can prevent us from building emotional closeness. Good news – they are so easy to avoid!
1. Words “I love you” matter in our culture. They are very meaningful, they mean commitment, they should not be said in vain especially for the first time.
2. Sex. If you find a woman sexually attractive, just tell her that she is sexy. That’s enough. Really enough. Don’t describe what her photos do to your body and what you want to do with her especially if you are not a committed couple yet) In our culture, it’s considered rather an insult than a compliment.
3. Marry me. I refer to the situation when it is not a proposal. Men often say this as a compliment or joke. What should the woman answer to this by the way? Again these words are 100% meaningful and sacred in our culture and usually you put us in awkward situation by saying this as compliment. Some women may even take it seriously)) what if they buy a wedding dress next day?))
4. Showing affection in public. Most will tell you yes if you ask them if they are affectionate and if they show affection in public. And this is what men want to hear. But in fact the limits here depend on culture. Trust me, no lady would love it if you hold her butt in public (it’s considered kind of offensive in our culture). Holding hands is a normal thing. Kissing – depends on the situation. Once again, the social limits here might be stricter than in the West which does not mean though that we are not tender and affectionate.
5. Bragging. Please be yourself. We are not here to advertise ourselves, neither men, nor women. Happiness is the state when our expectations coincide with reality. Let’s not expect Ideal and let’s not show ourselves as Ideal.
This was just a summary of my thoughts that were formed in my mind through communication with people and travelling to different countries. I look forward to your comments! I hope to hear from the gentlemen about anything in our culture and behavior that seems weird and can be misleading for you.