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Women with children.
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I have an opinion on dating and marriage to a woman with a child. I have been on this earth for more than a few years and it has been my experience that a child will very often destroy a great romance. When a man and a woman fall in love it is a wonderful thing. They become the most important person in the world to each other. There is a true romance between them. Take this perfect couple and add a child and it will eventually tare down the romance. They are no longer husband and wife. Then are no longer lovers and best friends. They transform into mothers and fathers. To the man she is still the most important person in the world but to the woman the child is now the most important person in the world. This forces the man into being the least important member of the family. Suddenly, that beautiful woman you married now will scream at you for not noticing that the child is asking for help to get a cookie or some toy or some other unimportant thing. This woman that loved you more than anyone else in the entire world now places the wants of a child before your happiness. And then they wonder why there man has lost his romantic feelings for her.

This happens when two people have a child together. Why don't women understand that their desire to have a child will destroy their romantic love. Many men replace the life they had before the child with devotion to a job or hobby or other more destructive past times like drinking or cheating. Women are completely unable to understand this because they are unable to see beyond this life that they created. Over the years I have seen this happen to so many couples. The amazing part is that the women don't even notice this is happening until it's to late. When they suddenly realize that he sleeps with his back to me. He doesn't kiss me anymore. We no longer make love for 2 hours. The men lie about the reasons this has happened and say things like, I had a stressful day at work or I have to get up early.

Children are not the most important part of a family. You choose your mate, you promise to love them and they to love you. Then this unremarkable thing happens and out comes a baby. I say unremarkable because every mammal on the planet does the exact same thing. All this is very difficult for a man to live with after a million years of evolution has trained us to to be the power behind the family unit.

And in the end this beautiful creature that you fell in love with and worship as a goddess suddenly turns on your and will leave your bed in the middle of making love just because this child calls out to her. It is the ultimate betrayal. And many women with children have already lost the man that loved them because they turned on him now look for some other fool to be the least important member of their family. Some men can deal with this better than others. I'm not one of those men. If the woman I love leaves me for a child then I will leave as well.

I have many times talked to beautiful women on this site that have a child but at one point in the relationship I always hear the same thing, my child is my whole world. So what does that make me, chopped liver? Why would any man want a woman who's whole world is someone else? That child is your whole world then learn to live with it and stop blaming men because we don't want to be support you and some other mans kid. The fact is that a woman with a child is looking for a husband, not a friend and lover but someone to help her take care of her whole world. Isn't it wonderful to be used by a child, men?
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