Dude what the hell is wrong with you , you are a retard, Do you really believe the bull crap you are saying, Having a child is a gift to you and her, A gift that should be cherished and given all the love that any one can offer, They are not a burden and if you think so you are a real looser. Every woman ever born has a desire to have kids, It is in there nature, It is built in there Geno. And it does not take away from the way she feel about you to care for her child, And should not make you feel that way, It takes TWO to have a kid, not just her,and if you feel it is a burden than you are not the price of the bullet that kills you. And as far as that goes if the woman has a child form some one else and you can not find love in your heart for this child than you do not deserve to find Love , cause you are not worthy of it.

A child does not have any control over who the parents are , And so many men just think about sex and do not consider the action that it can bring in causing the kid to be born and then run like a little bitch from there responsibility in staying and raising the child and leave it all to the woman. Be a dam man and have the respect in your self and do what you should in regard to the child and the mother. If a man is worried that a child can take the love from him he did not have the love that he was looking for in the first place, and I do not mean from the woman but the love that he had for her, Never should a child be considered to be a burden. They are a blessing form God, And one day you will have to answer for your betrayal of your kid,

You know dip Shit if your mother had done what you are saying about kids your sorry ass would not have been born. And maybe the World would be a little better off. But that is another subject, The point is guys If a woman has kids already or has a kid with you it is not a curse , it will not break your marriage , It will not end your desire for each other, Sure times may get a little harder till you figure it all out, But in the long run it will make you life a more gratifying and happy. And then you add the love that you receive from the kid and your life will be a lot better.
You know being a father is not defined but blood, but by love and respect. Caring and fulfillment , Heart felt joy and loads of hugs and kisses. So men Do the right thing by the woman you fall in love with , Give her respect,love ,kindness, and your heart and she will give you a 1000 fold back.
devo