I tend to agree with some of the later posts about women with kids. I wouldn't necessarily use the same language as them, and I haven't ever responded to blogs before, but I feel that this is one area that really needs to be addressed. I will add my 2 cents in here as I feel that it's a really important issue.

First of all, you need to keep in mind how you were raised. In my case I was the oldest of my moms children, but when my dad married her, he already had 2 kids that were older, so there were 5 children being raised at the same time. I can understand that some men might not view this in the same insight that I've got or have the life experiences that I've had. Having a built in family can really be a blessing whether you agree with me or not, that's not what I'm about.

Secondly, it's an ego trip for men to have kids that are theirs. This is not always possible from a medical perspective. Sometimes the man is not able to produce or the woman might not be able to produce in able to have kids. Thus it becomes very satisfactory for the man to be able to show his love and leadership through acceptance of her children that she already has. There's also other options that are always available such as foster care, adoption, and being the one that's willing to do whatever it takes to keep her satisfied in the relationship.

I'm a just a man that knows if I'm not able to have kids, I would find ways to make sure I was surrounded with all the love and affection that I could. That would include being able to accept her kids if she had any. Love is being able to accept her on all levels. In fact, the romance can get even better when she understands that you're willing to accept not only her, but her children as well. You need to include them in all your plans, whether travel, working with them as maybe a coach for their sporting events, teaching them the ways that things are done in their new country, even helping with homework that they're having trouble with. Your leadership will be rewarded over 1000 fold through your relationships both in family and work.

I would like to share with my brethren out there that it's very important to nurture the love of the woman and children. As a man it's your job to make them into the best woman that you can through the grace of GOD. This is something that he's made inherent in us. If that's not something that you see being able to do, then you need to look deep into yourself, and how selfish are you being in only trying to satisfy your wants. There's a lot of beautiful ladies on this site that can use understanding about mistakes that they've made, and I'm not perfect, as I doubt many of us are. We're all just asking for another chance.

My last thought about this for now is that the romance will just get sweeter as you're able to be able to accept them for who they are. There's always going to be a lot that can be done to improve the situation that you're both in. By making a family night, setting date nights for her, kindling a fire to fill that passion that you both have, fulfilling desires that you both have, discussing future dreams, fulfilling your life with such a woman that you want to marry can only enhance the romantic days that are still to come. Make sure that in all things you give her the love and respect that she richly deserves as a fellow heir to heaven.

Terry