You can ask anyone about love and they have many answers to it.
Marriage in my family goes very deep and personal. My great grandparents married 67 years, my grandparents 50 years my parents 45 years.
I come from a very large family. 10 children. My siblings have been married over 30 years plus with the eldest just hitting their 51st wedding anniversary.
So all my life I watched each couple develop and change.
I figured out quickly what love is not!
Love is not lust, desire, spark , chemistry or things you like. Love is not expectations or beliefs. All those things lead you down the wrong road and to a dead end in any relationship.
Love is more than compatibility. Just because your compatible with someone doesn't mean your in love with them.
Love is so complicated yet simple at its base core.
Love starts with respect first and foremost. Then a balancing of each other's mental and emotional needs. Not wants !
Our core basic needs arise up from what was lacking in our childhood from the opposite sex parent. We need that from our partner. If the partners strength is equal to our needs we begin to match.
Relationships often have a give and take atmosphere to them. As we take from our partner we need to replace it by filling one of their primary needs. To make both of use feel equal to each other.
No ones parents are perfect. But our parents lay our foundation in which we stand on literallly.
The hardest part is examining your core self to determine what your core needs are. To do this one must dig deep into their parents lives even their grandparents lives to understand their parents way of thinking and reactions. Why they did what they did great and bad. What motivated them what made upset. Will help you understand how they saw life growing up. And how it affects you today.
Now you need to look at your values what you truly believe in and how you see life. Does the person you truly like love admire match your moral compass.
If not then you will be able to see the difficulties you might have.
Now that all comes together with your ability to compromise with them .
Compromising your beliefs and values is very hard to do. So if they match you will see growth with them.
So compromising a want becomes easier because you have met your needs and values.
Now this is where true love can grow.
Love is many things to many people. Love is happiness with someone a feeling of being whole with your other half. It's that unbreakable bond of friendship, acceptance , trust , respect, appreciation, and more!
Ever wonder why some people are with each other and are always happy together. That super model with that nerdy guy, The hunk of man with his complete opposite tall with short thin with fat. Yet they are always happy.
It's not always about money or power. You see it in every country and social class. Go look in your parks , malls every where.
It's because they fill each other's needs, have the same values, their moral compass is functioning perfectly.
They didn't look for the easiest path they looked for love on the right path.
From the inside out first.
Those who look on only the outside first never discover harmony peaceful relationships.
Ever been with a friend or somebody and it was so simple and easy to be with them? It's because you can be who you truly are with them.
Love is hard work my parents said. You will fight and argue with your partner in marriage. But in the end you learn to forgive and forget. When you share the same belief systems of values , morals and ethics.
Because everything begins at your core being. If you do not know it you need to learn it fast or you will be faced with life lessons and karma you will not want.
Find the person who matches all of you not part of you.
This why I am here to discover the inner beauty of the right woman.
That's the true advantage of this marriage site.
In time everyone exposes their true core and the truth comes out in the end.