When you ask people from all over the world you get a wide assortment of answers. So it's vital you find out their ideaology of marriage.
I've seen great marriages to bad ones.
The first lesson I learned was marriage is work!!! In every sense of the word.
It's not just about romance and passion as so many wish it to be.
It's about baring your soul to the other person as they should do with you.
It's about finding your values, morals, ethics and character and finding a person who matches you.
Remember it's a labor of Love not a job. So if your looking at people like a job application your headed down the wrong path! Why ? Because humans are not perfect!
It's about sharing your entire world with them forever.
I've never seen people get married for fun or just something to do.
Marriage is a very sacred thing. Who in their right mind would get married in front of family and friends. Risk their lives in the hands of another person they truly do not know, respect, and trust.
In a marriage you will have intense emotions on every level. Some good some bad. The goal is to have less bad.
You can do that by discovering everything out about them. Do not be afraid to ask deep personal questions this is your life it's not a game. If the person refuses to answer you or won't give you enough details. To your satisfaction then they are not right for you.
People have strange expectations and some normal ones as well.
That's based off their life experiences , core values, morals and ethics. Which is found deep in their foundation from childhood.
So discovering their life experiences from childhood is critical! First you must remember to keep yourself objective and not emotional or sympathetic. So you can clearly see what defines this person as a whole.
Basic rules of marriage!
1. Complete partnership on every level.
2. Respect to who they are! ( do not try and change them accept them).
3. Complete Trust is required!
4. The same goals and objectives !
5. Same or similar belief systems in religion, children, life style , and money .
6. Defining your levels of compromising
( What is acceptable to the both of you)
7. Your mental and emotional needs can you match theirs,can they match yours.
8. Balance by doing mutual things together. And by helping them with things you do not care for. As they should do the same for you as well.
9. No set or defined roles in the relationship is critical for a great partnership. If one person got hurt or ill you know how and why they do things. So your lives do not spin out of control.
( Think like a business. If your spouse paid your employees. Your spouse got hurt or ill. When it comes to employees needing their pay checks. Would you want to hear from your boss, you will have to wait until my spouse comes back on pay day?.
10. Now apply time for just you two. Dates, walks, dinners, romance, intimate moments , and keep that love burning.
Now all of this is deep communication !!!
None of this started out with passion, lust, desire, chemistry, or sex.
Why ? Because after all that you will have to focus on these things. That's where those type of relationships always fail. When they face these things!
Most of my family have been married for 30 to 60 plus years. This is how they got married, grew together, learned to love each spouse more deeper as the years went by. You can find a pretty girl or handsome guy any where. But finding the love of your life is priceless!
Sites like this gives you the opportunity to stare deep into someone's heart mind and soul.
Read the BLOGS pick up tips from people's experiences .
55,000 plus from Ukraine and Russia have moved to my state in the last 20 years! The number 1 reason they listed was our life and family values matched theirs. So many keep coming we even have a Ukrainian youth camp built for the children born from women from Ukraine here. So the children can experience Ukrainian traditions and culture here in this state. Remember your culture and traditions matter just as much as theirs does. In the last 20 years I have not heard of 1 single divorce here any where.