1. Discuss how each of you reacts to stress.
Each person experiences stress, is affected by it, and copes with stress in their own way. However, when both partners experience stress at the same time, their individual stress responses may not be the same.
For example, some of us need communication and words of encouragement from a partner when we are overwhelmed, while others become more reserved and need time alone. If both partners are overwhelmed, it can lead to fighting, with one feeling rejected and the other feeling pressured.

2. Don't forget about recovery
If possible, choose a time when you can give each other your full attention, and listen to each other without judgment, doing your best to understand and respect each other's point of view, even if you still disagree. And making sure to express how much you care about each other. This will help you develop greater intimacy and trust in your relationship as each of you demonstrates that you can be there for each other even when you both feel vulnerable.

3.Be open about support
Each person has individual preferences regarding what support they prefer to offer and receive, and each situation may require its own nuance in what support is needed. People often feel best when they solve their problems in their own way and will therefore resist their partner offering tangible support to solve the problem for them. Instead, they may need emotional support to calm or reassure them so they feel ready to solve the problem on their own. So being clear about what kind of support you need will help your partner be there for you. Likewise, asking what kind of support your partner might benefit from can help you effectively help them.

4. Diversify your support
During times of stress, when we are working with limited emotional and physical resources, such expectations are especially difficult to meet. Therefore, if possible, it will be very useful to expand your support group beyond just one partner. Considering support from family, friends or the community can help reduce the pressure that stress puts on your relationship.

5.Notice and celebrate the positives
Even during times of adversity, people can still have positive moments of connection. Whenever possible, express gratitude and appreciation to your partner, give them a hug, pause, and together acknowledge that this is a very difficult time and you are doing great together in so many ways. One way to strengthen the feeling of security and connection between you and your partner is to celebrate the positive things that happen in each other's lives.