1.Work on communication skills. Strong relationships are built on effective communication. Make an effort to truly listen to each other and share both positive and negative feelings to keep the environment honest and open.
2.Perform regular maintenance. Monitor your relationship from time to time to see what's working, what's not, and what you both can do to strengthen your bond. Do you want to prioritize spending time together? Do you share housework? Discuss changes that will bring you harmony, and decide together what compromises you are willing to make.
3. Adjust your expectations. Accept yourself, your spouse, and your relationship as it exists today. It's natural to want the honeymoon phase to last forever. But people and relationships change over time, and each new milestone brings new dynamics and routines.
4.Create rituals. Routines and rituals can help maintain a relationship. A goodbye kiss before work, breakfast in bed with a crossword puzzle on the weekends, a weekly date night or a walk after dinner - these are the little things that over time become the glue in a healthy relationship.
5.Plan dates and surprises for each other. Romance should be a permanent part of your relationship, not just on special occasions. Take turns planning dates or other surprises to keep your relationship interesting. You can rent kayaks, buy concert tickets to your partner's favorite band, or turn your dining area into a fancy restaurant where you can wine and dine with your partner when he gets home from work. Be thoughtful in your plans and think about what your spouse likes.
6.Plan roadblocks. You won't always agree on everything. Think about and discuss situations that you know cause disagreements, and plan to treat each other with respect before disagreements arise. Use “I” statements and focus on the problem at hand. Develop the habit of looking for positive qualities in your spouse and showing appreciation.
7.Give each other space. Your relationship will be stronger and more interesting if you give your spouse time and space without you. Remember that one person cannot meet all your needs. Both you and your spouse should maintain and develop external friendships and interests.
8.Be active together. A couple that trains together stays together. Exercising with your partner is not only a fun way to get in shape, it helps you feel better, which in turn strengthens your relationship.