Probably everyone who is in a long-term relationship is familiar with this situation: we still love, respect, and value our husband or wife for his or her contribution to family life.

But sometimes in the evening we try to sneak into the bedroom unnoticed first and “fall asleep” before our partner arrives. Or sit on the sofa in front of the TV and fall asleep there, feeling very tired.

But we really haven’t fallen out of love at all. Or maybe we love even more - because to the former tenderness is added a feeling of guilt for having, as it were, cooled towards the partner.

Unlike other relationship problems, this one is more difficult to solve. Because people are not very inclined to discuss it with their partners.

Indeed, the admission “Somehow I don’t want you anymore” looks somehow offensive.

Those who have tried to discuss this know that they find themselves in a situation of so-called zugzwang. When, no matter what you say or even remain silent, everything will turn against you.

After all, “cooling off” on the love front is instantly and unambiguously interpreted as something that he or she no longer loves and that the partner is undoubtedly cheating!

Or, if your half is unsure of itself and therefore prone to self-reflection, it will decide that, due to the fact that it is not good enough, it has simply become uninteresting to you.