It's been almost 4 years i have been on this site now and will admit the amount of letters has been astonishing.
But i have noticed that so many of these letters have either no emotion in them or as so many, full of empty love.
Telling someone you are there's, that you are head over heals in love or that you know what they want in the first letter is as empty as a bag of fresh air.
In the time i have been on this site I've written to some, but very few.
Some i have even grown very close to and even fallen for, only to loose them through bad timing or circumstances keeping me away from the site.
We would all love to be able to write every day, but reality is that life, circumstances and finances sometimes means it's just not possible.
If you have been writing back and forth to each other for months on end and one of you says that you may not always be able to answer straight away, that it could even be a month before answering, take there word for it and wait.
After all if you truly are falling for that person, can see them in your future, aren't they worth the wait?
And please please please start reading the persons profile, telling me you have and that i sound great etc is all well and good.
But when you then write down that you can imagine us on a beach, holding hands and the wind in my hair, it shows you haven't read it,,,,,I have a shaved head.
If you have registered on this site to truly find someone who will love you for who you are, will cherish you, never give up on you, then don't give up looking.
I know it gets you down and upsets you when someone writes a horrible letter, but don't give up.
Only yesterday i heard that someone is leaving this site because a man had written to them saying no one wants a woman who is just a store clerk.
I'm here to tell you that's rubbish.
A 'REAL' man will want you and love you even if you weren't working at all.
It's not about what you have, what you can gain from each other.
It's about heart, soul, love, trust, commitment.
Another thing I've noticed is so many ladies have children, but never ever mention them in letters or ask about children if a man has them,,,,,WHY?
Aren't your children the most precious thing in your life?
Don't you want to know that the man you are talking too likes children?
Do you want more kids?
Does he want more kids?
It's nice to chat about what goes on in each others daily lives, but remember the important things.
Ask questions, get to know each other.
If the other person is avoiding answering questions or doesn't ask how you are, how family are, then ask yourself are they really as caring as they make out.
Trust your instincts, don't rush into things, don't get offended by horrible letters, there are a lot of shallow people out there.
Believe in yourself and never think that just because you have children, a low paid job or are over a certain age, that no one will want you.
As for me i want to take this chance to say thank you for so so many letters, but to also say that i will be coming off of this site for just a while.
Circumstances and illness in the family now mean i need to put all my attention into matters here for a while.
I will not give up in my search for the right person, but for now i must put that on hold.
Wishing you all the best and my love.

Paul xx