Dear Ladies and gentlemen, the subject of my blog, will be rather interesting for both sexes.
Surely, lots of people here went through this moment. This horrible word, like a bolt out of the blue! Divorce!!!
For somebody it was very painful, somebody still loves their ex and can’t forget them…Somebody is still afraid of being hurt again and again, somebody keeps comparing their partners with previous one.
As for me, I am absolutely happy after divorce and now try to be even happier :)))
When I hear people say they are happily married for 25, 30 years, I'm truly happy for them. But I am also happy and I say, I am happy, that I divorced two year ago. For now I don’t regret, that I didn’t try to safe something, that I can’t, and probably, will never safe! It was the best thing I could have done for myself. I am very confident, secure, and live a peaceful life. I was not afraid of being alone…for now I ready to meet my LOVE!
In the beginning it was difficult financially because I bring up my child as a single parent, but I hope, it’s just for now.
Of course, the first month after divorce was awful and even crazy…Everybody tired to calm me and give very very wise advises, I even looked for “How to live after divorce?” in the Internet sources, read books and different articles…But, practically, I don’t understand, if I need all this!!!
If I really need all advises and approaches, that famous psychologists give us…here are some of them: For instance, if I should to “balance myself” and don't focus solely on one area: emotional recovery, career, child or dating.
“Give myself a break”. Get a massage. Go on a vacation. Read a book or even write it :). Take a long bike ride. Actually at that time, I was not in need of rest and full relaxation; I wanted to find out, what I really feel now.
Another advise made me really laugh, here it is: “Be practical about romance and date with caution”:)))So, why should I date with caution and be practical??? Will it help me to feel really good, and full of happiness???
I found some source in the Internet, where such advices were presented…I should realize that I am not blame and immediately look for my goal in life, find out how to get it in future or even join an active Support Group:)
Generally speaking, it looks like the world’s conspiracy…Everybody tried to make me sure, that I am very upset, feel horrible, even don’t want to live anymore without my ex. Indispensably, I should fall into deep depression and think, that I’ll never get married again, and nobody doesn’t need me.
Al these stupid things were really driving me crazy till I said: “STOP!!!” And probably escaped for two days, I went to the south coast of Crimean, I found an amazing place…Nature really helps to sort all the things out.
And when, I found myself alone, around the mountains and blue clear sea, without the urban bustle, the Internet, books and all these stupid advices…I clearly understood, that divorce was a the most wonderful thing, what happened in my life, of course, after the birth of my daughter Polina.
Now, I am sure, that the best way to start new life is to fall in love, sincere and without limits...And maybe my real life has just started right here and right now :)))
Yours Anna.