1. Goals
One goal for two is the basis of all relationships. If it is missing, then other techniques and tools will not help. It is entirely possible for the two of you to find common interests, have a good time, learn to compromise, but in general, your idea of ​​the future, of life together, will be different, and this is bad.
It is important that the goals are specific. Couples consciously identify some common goal very rarely. Initially, of course, dreams are discussed, but this is at the very beginning of life together. Gradually they are simply forgotten.
In a situation where both spouses agree on joint plans and share desires, they constantly renew their mutual responsibility to each other. Psychologists advise doing this at least on all wedding anniversaries. This is especially important during difficult periods of family life - the fifth or eighth year, or at other moments when relationships are cracking.
This also applies to having children. When one of the spouses is ready to become a parent, and the other, for some reason, wants to postpone this event. It is important to sit down and discuss this moment, determine the deadlines, and then harmony will not go anywhere.
2. Pleasures
The ability to share their pleasures makes couples even more emotionally attached to each other. And partners don’t always have to have common hobbies and interests.Even people who are very similar to each other cannot always live together. If one person loves skiing, and the other loves spa treatments, then you can always go to one resort, check into a hotel and devote time to your favorite activities, returning and sharing your impressions with each other.
The whole point is not patience, but the ability to coexist, do what you love and be with each other at the same time. Compromise is not about giving in all the time, but about being comfortable.
It is also not recommended to save time for each other, which is usually observed among couples who have lived together for more than one year. They are busy with responsibilities, everyday life, work. As a result, we simply forgot how to talk and have fun together. To maintain warmth in relationships and fire in your soul, it is important to sometimes go somewhere together, go on vacation without children and friends. Maybe not for long, but only together.
3. Ups and downs
Personal growth can also affect the deterioration of relationships. Often this becomes the main reason for the cooling of feelings. If one is on the rise and the other is in the decline phase, then the first takes on more responsibilities and supports the partner. And this is correct, but it’s worth setting boundaries right away. Decide how much time your partner needs to come to his senses and begin to conquer new heights. If a person does nothing to correct the situation, help is already required from the outside, from a psychologist. It is important that everyone is responsible for their own growth; this is the best support.
If a woman can cook dinner for the whole family from one chicken for a week, and get by with one outfit for all occasions, then a man will not bother.And so it will do. Exactly the same in reverse order.
4. Values ​​and motivation

“Credits of trust” issued to a partner will not strengthen or save the marriage. If a woman can make it clear to a man that she will not tolerate humiliation, insults and will cope well alone, the attitude towards her will be different.
Psychologists say that a man changes his attitude towards his wife if he sees that she is not only an excellent housewife and mother, but also an attractive woman doing what she loves, and that men turn to her. If a person is afraid of losing another, then he will behave better.
5. Rituals
Every family has its own traditions and rituals that should not be abandoned. This could be a weekly family dinner on Sundays, going to the cinema or theater once a month, celebrating a certain event in a narrow family circle, without friends and relatives.
Even if people have forgotten over time how simple it is to pay attention to each other, to be together without getting bored, it makes sense to try. It will get better every time.