1. Add uncertainty to the relationship
As a rule, the fiery feelings that we experience at the beginning of a relationship begin to fade over time, and after a few years they disappear completely. Why is this happening? The fact is that in the first months of acquaintance we do not yet know our partner well enough; we are fascinated by an individual, independent person who has his own secrets and mysteries, and we try to penetrate his special world.
2. Respect the other person's personal space
When a person's desire for intimacy goes too far and invades the other's space, intimacy begins to feel like coercion. In some couples, one of the partners no longer waits for the other, figuratively speaking, to invite him into his territory, but behaves as if he has acquired the right of free access to the most private thoughts of his beloved.
3.Work on self-esteem
Often a serious problem arises when, over time (no matter why), people begin to be unequally attracted to each other. If you clearly have stronger feelings for your partner than he does for you, then your relationship is trapped in passion.
The strongest counteract to the forces of unequal attractiveness is high self-esteem. Considering yourself a worthwhile person, you do not depend on other people’s reactions, do not need unnecessary confirmation of your own “I” and can relax.You will not panic when your partner pays attention to someone else because you are confident in yourself and will not accept this as your downfall. You will be able to resist impulses to over-groom and other decisions that weaken your position and increase imbalance.
4. Stop pleasing your partner
The most common panic reaction to a crisis in a relationship is exaggerated dependent and subservient behavior. However, you have a great way out: learn to notice your reflexive reactions of the “weak” and resist them. To develop this useful ability, make a list of your most frightening and frequently occurring addictive behavior reflexes, for example:

- I always agree with my partner;

- I never show him my indignation and anger;

- I call him and stop at his office every time I feel jealous or insecure;

- I always try to be more helpful and kind in order to please him;

- I always do what he wants, even if I don’t want it myself.
Get ready to monitor the unwanted reflexes of the “weak” person, and then talk yourself out of the actions they suggest. Over time, you will become so accustomed to monitoring your reactions that you will easily suppress them. As you learn to control overreactions and knee-jerk behavior, your thoughts will become clearer and your urge to act like a “weak” will subside.