1. Pay attention to your body's signals. Any of its signals (thirst, headache, fatigue, hunger, etc.) are a kind of clues that tell you what form of love you need here and now. If you suppress your headaches with pills, and when you are overtired, you don’t give yourself an hour of rest, you don’t love yourself. And complete relaxation in response to fatigue and a relaxing massage session instead of a pill is a sign of caring for your body, and therefore self-love.

2. Attention directed to your true desires. If you sacrifice a long-awaited trip to the pool or, for example, yoga, in order to do household chores, self-love is out of the question. If you refuse to cook your favorite dish just because your spouse wants something else, this is again about dislike.

3. Time you set aside for yourself. Do you like to take a walk before bed, read a fascinating book, or do some handicrafts, but you chronically don’t have enough time for it? In fact, it exists, but you don’t allow it to be highlighted for yourself, which means you consider yourself a person unworthy of it.

4. Communication with those people who bring positive emotions into your life. If you reject empty communication with those who are not particularly pleasant to you, then you care about your environment and choose its format yourself. Otherwise, you don't love yourself at all.

5. The ability to bring clarity to your relationship with your partner and leave places where you are not valued or respected, for example, from a boring job, from a company of people with interests alien to you, from an unloved person (even if you have common children, housing, a mortgage, etc.) etc.).

6. Take a responsible approach to your role in life. You are responsible for your decisions, interests and hobbies. What you allow yourself is what you get, but provided that you draw your conclusions responsibly.

7. The ability to enjoy life. Do you enjoy enjoying a cup of coffee in bed, lazing around at lunch, or reading your favorite books until the night? Allow yourself to live like this if you love yourself!

8. Do not blame yourself for mistakes and do not criticize yourself for failures. Accepting mistakes, focusing on successes and never criticizing yourself is the algorithm for the actions of a person who loves himself.

9. Accept your emotions and be able to express them. A person has the right to negative emotions, and this is absolutely normal, because he is not a mechanical robot. By loving yourself, you allow yourself to voice the emotions you experience: “I’m scared,” “I’m uncomfortable,” “I miss you,” etc.

10. Independence from the opinions of other people. This means that you yourself influence your mood, and do not go into a state of depression or deep resentment because of words spoken to you or someone else’s actions.

11. Self-liking. You don't need other people's approval about your appearance. It’s enough to look in the mirror and you understand that you like yourself, not only from the point of view of the physical body, but also internally.

12. Lack of chronic feelings of guilt for what has been done or not yet done. A person is a priori not to blame for someone’s mistakes, a boss’s bad mood, a spouse’s absent-mindedness, a saleswoman’s rudeness in a store, etc. If you really haven’t done anything wrong, don’t put the burden of guilt on your shoulders - this is another criterion for self-love.

13. The ability to allocate time for work and rest, refusal to work to the point of exhaustion. Yes, you can literally “burn out” at work, trying to be the best and earn a kind word from your boss. You need it? Does this make you happier? People who love themselves never do this, because not a single workaholic saved the world and made it happier.

14. Allowing yourself to be different. A person who loves himself does not try to play the role that he has invented for himself in order to please everyone. He allows himself to be different, depending on the circumstances, and does not become an actor in his own life.

15. The ability to respect other people. Your attitude towards others is a projection of your attitude towards yourself. Say no when necessary. Help if you are asked to do so, and helping is not a sacrifice for you. Respect other people's personal space and protect yours from “unauthorized intrusions.”

16. Believe in yourself. The most valuable person is yourself. You can achieve anything, even move mountains, because to do this you don’t need anyone’s approval or criticism. If you find that same inner core in yourself (and everyone has it), then you will be able to get around half the world. Faith gives birth to strength, and as American psychotherapist Dyer Wayne said: “When you believe, then you will see.”

17. Take care of your health. And this is not constant visits to doctors and buying a whole list of medications - this is the ability to feel your body and respond to its requests, provide timely support using effective but safe methods. Instead of immunostimulants - hardening and products that improve the functioning of the immune system; instead of coffee when you literally fall off your feet - a couple of hours of complete relaxation, etc.