1. DO NOT INTERRUPT THE DIALOGUE
Can we really be content with what our conversations have become over the years - short and irritated exchanges of news about children and financial problems? Developing relationships in a couple in this case means, first of all, explaining to the partner that we would like to again establish deep communication with him, a genuine, friendly dialogue. “No matter how strong the love, your partner is not obliged to feel your feelings and read your thoughts. And not to do this on the run, not when he (or she) is in a hurry or angry. Agree on the following, for example, ritual: every evening, despite work or illness, you find an hour for each other to calmly, over a cup of tea, discuss affairs, emotions and plans, including dreams about the future of your couple.”
2. MAKE TIME FOR EACH OTHER
With the arrival of a child, parental concerns and the responsibilities of spouses often overshadow their partnership. “As kids grow, it can be difficult to make time for your love life without feeling like a bad parent. To prevent your family from being perceived as a routine, as a heavy burden that you carry on your shoulders, plan weekly pleasures that are interesting to both: some couples will prefer bike rides or playing tennis, others will prefer lectures on philosophy or arthouse cinema.Time spent together, without a phone, without children, confirms the importance of this relationship for each of you.”
3. CONTINUE THE SEDITION
Of course, everything needs moderation. Allowing yourself a little carelessness in your home environment is natural. But if this carelessness is excessive, we risk depriving the relationship of eroticism. Everyone has their own situations, words and actions that kill love. Usually we are talking about an unclosed tube of toothpaste, crumpled pajamas or dirty cups. Love is generously ready to put up with them. They need to look at each other with new eyes from time to time, and anything will do here - unusual behavior, clothing, unusual appearance. Think about how you can surprise your partner. Let him admire you at the moment when you are doing what you are great at - dancing, baking a cake, riding a board on the waves. Try to look at your spouse sometimes as if for the first time. This requires imagination. That’s why it’s so good to spend a vacation in the company - you involuntarily see your partner through the eyes of strangers.”
4. VALUE YOUR UNION
A couple is not just the sum of two individuals. This is an essence that is unique for each of the two. it gives them a feeling of confidence in each other.” It is necessary to publicly show that the partners belong to each other, and to avoid ambiguities, such as meetings with the ex-husband or wife without the participation of the current spouse, as well as too close friendships with members of the opposite sex. Old-fashioned? Not for everyone. “If partners trust each other, flirting is wonderful - it’s a game that invigorates.
5.SUPPORT EACH OTHER
The couple’s priority also presupposes a willingness to come to the rescue, giving up everything else, and a desire to share the partner’s difficulties. Which is not easy at all. After all, today independence is valued and everyone hides in armor, instead of opening up to the other, leaning on him. But our partner is not a telepath, and if we don’t say that it’s difficult for us, then he has the right not to guess.” Moreover, it is not easy for us to accept the deep otherness of another person without wanting to change him. It is difficult for us to bear that he is not always in the best shape, sometimes weakens and is unrecognizable. And that his coping strategies are not the same as ours.”