To every lady that moves to another country. I know you have dreams of travel, and fun. That's great to have. But realistically let me tell you what happens when you move to another area. ( with children or not ).
It's going to take at least a full year to you get adjusted to your new life. It's all the littlest things you never think of that are so important.
Think of it this way. If you ever been married . Went through a wedding. It wasn't the big expenses that hurt. It was all the little things that added up costing more than you thought. Or if your a mother. Reflect as to raising your child. When you could quit buying diapers , serve your baby real food, and they were finally fully trained to use the bathroom without your assistance.
Once your learn the basics there's always more to learn .
Don't be discouraged think of it in a very positive way. So before placing wild expectations or idea's. Fun, travel , cooking , sex/making love , having a family, or anything else. Start asking yourself what do I want to become? Yes ladies your should be presented a opportunity to grow on every level. The first 3 months go by quickly. Then things start forming a routine in about 6 months.
By a year your starting to become comfortable and developed a routine.
Now if you choose a good man. He should realize he's going to have to help you on many personal things.
Like showing you the best type of soaps , shampoo's , where to get your hair done by a really good stylish, your nails done all those basic's to make your adjustment to his country so much easier. He might have to help you read female hygiene products . So you choose the products that best suits you. Or incase you have an allergy to something. Also help you find a female gynecologist . So you can get your yearly examine and check ups.
YES MEN YOUR GOING TO HAVE TO STEP UP TO A HIGHER LEVEL!!!!
Your going to show them where all these places are!!!
Even if their English is good they still will need your assistance on almost every issue.
So you better have the time !!! Or your going to be having huge difficulties in your marriage!!!
So you want a family ??? Great so now that also means you will need to find a pediatrician. Oh yes you better start truly thinking of all of this
Gentleman and Ladies!!!!
Bring a partner from another country has its problems. I don't care if it's one country over from the other!
You can't just expect her to really know everything there like a native woman would.
Transportation is different everywhere. To street names , highways, bus stops , train stations it's easy to get lost. Oh for you men who are thinking I will give her GPS!!! Your fooling yourself!!! It's not always accurate . Also it's in English and so are the instructions an if she hits the wrong button or screws up with the location because of abbreviation. Your a fool to believe in it.
Yes so basically you both are going to be dependent on each other.
Now when it comes to age difference? I'm going to say this point blank. It depends on the individual . I will say this Ukrainian and Russian women are far more mature than most women are any where in the world!
I have worked with women from Asia, Europe , Africa , South and Central America .
Maturity doesn't mean life experiences it means how you deal with life in general!
I've taught English to people in these countries Czech, Slovakia, Moldova, Ukraine , Russia, Belarus , Poland , France and a few more as well.
One the funniest man I've ever met is a guy who lives in Ukraine . He's a hydro engineer for the Ukrainian government. Who came to the US study our water ways. We had a lot of laughs. But he also told me this golden secret about Ukrainian women! They will change you !!! You will not change them!!!
If you do your best for them. Do all the little things besides the big things. They will do anything for you!!! So I asked them what are those little things. He told me. He said they look for respect by what you will do for them. Carry the groceries , help them with everything , change diapers, clean up, be true man!!! Not men's work/ woman's work rules. They don't work no more!!! Slavic women to smart for that . They leave men like that !!! They are the smartest women besides beauty of world. They dream like princesses all women do!
But they won't tolerate disrespect!
No drinking, no drugs, no fighting , no troubles , no rude, no macho men, no bad men they see it here.
You need to be classy refine gentleman . No loud or foul mouth men! They are to clever you could be the most handsome or richest man in world. They won't tolerate those men!!! They can get those men in Ukraine! Why would they want you then!!!
My Ukrainian man friend who lives in Ukraine married over 30 years has 3 children.
He said you better dress nice, be very clever, know their culture, know their history, and follow their superstitions and beliefs. Foreign men come all the time looking for beautiful bride. But are idiots they think only about themselves . They will read you in a single glance. Know your whole life story. Seen every man game on the planet . They know if your good man bad man family man who ever you are instantly.
Most foreign men go home with no bride ! Why because of lack of respect. You need to understand she's giving up everything for her man! Her family, friends, her way of life, everything she knows and believes for LOVE !!!!
So if you think it's a easy decision men!
Give up your life move to a new country where you know nobody. Put your life in a woman's hand. Where you do not know the culture, how to get around town , have no friends , find a job, don't know where the doctor is, or get a hair cut, or currency value , look at it from through their eyes. How would you feel if you moved to Ukraine / Russia .
When you talk age difference Ukrainian and Russian women are 10 times more mature than any other women twice their age! So if your a man looking for a wife seriously looking?
You better be able to step up. If your a lady looking for a husband you truly needs to see if he truly qualifies by what I mention and more!!!
Your not just changing your lives but all those who are connected to you now and in the future! His / her family , friends , neighbors, coworkers and your community, and then if there is children involved them as well!
Your not just marrying a Wife/Husband your marrying each other's family!!! Think about that !!! Age, beauty ,sex, intelligence , money doesn't matter if you are clueless with what your getting yourself in for!
Then as a man! Can you say this looking in the mirror straight in the eyes . The gift of love she is giving me is so vast! I will do my best towards her always, I will lay down my life to protect her, our family or hers!!!