Arguments for fidelity
🔸 None of us likes to feel rejected or deceived. This causes pain, sometimes so much that the partner chooses to break up. We can say that fidelity is the unwillingness to cause mental suffering to a loved one. If you really love this person, you are unlikely to want him to suffer.

🔸 Often the cause of infidelity is infantilism, the belief that somewhere there is an ideal partner, without flaws or flaws. In search of your prince, you can go through many men, but still not find him. After all, the ideal exists only in dreams. In the end, you will come to the simple idea that you need to perceive your partner as he is. But where is the guarantee that after so many betrayals you will not burn out, and your regular partner will not lose patience?

🔸 Consistency in relationships gives a feeling of security. After all, fidelity implies not only physical contact with one partner, but also support for his endeavors, faith in him as a person, and a willingness to go through difficult times together. If both you and your man are confident in each other, you look much calmer about tomorrow. You have that comfort zone that every person needs.

🔸 Since cheating is not approved in society and you were probably raised traditionally, with an emphasis on the need to remain faithful, by cheating, you may feel “bad”, “wrong”. The feeling of guilt will begin to accompany you constantly and will develop into a neurotic state. And there are two options: either you rush to “atone” for your guilt by indulging your partner in every possible way and allowing him even what should not be allowed (for example, violence or insult). Or a psychological defense mechanism will work, in which you shift all responsibility for your behavior onto the man. It is difficult to say which model of behavior is more destructive, but both of them are destructive - both for the individual and for relationships.

Arguments for infidelity
🔸 To be faithful or not - you can make this choice only independently and consciously. If your partner insists on constancy, but you internally do not want to comply with these rules by agreeing to his terms, there will be conflict within you. In this case, suffering is inevitable. Even if you remain faithful, you will dream about other men or women, realizing that these are just dreams. Needless to say, you are unlikely to be happy in such a union?

🔸 It is important for any woman to feel wanted. If a partner is not interested in her, she may develop many complexes and self-esteem drops. Of course, there is a chance to talk to your man and try to bring the former passion back into the relationship. But what if that doesn't help? Sometimes going “to the left” saves you for a while. And then the problems in the relationship only get worse. It is impossible to achieve a good result with a bad deed.

Well, and finally
Whether to remain faithful or not is entirely your decision and yours alone. What does fidelity mean to you: a conscious choice based on deep affection for your partner? Or a painful and necessary condition of a partnership that makes you feel like a victim? Before you decide this issue for yourself completely, think about what you gain and what you lose by cheating or being faithful. If the price of betrayal is too high for you, is it worth giving in to a passing hobby? If fidelity negatively affects you and brings you suffering, maybe it’s time to talk to a psychologist?