1.Stage one: falling in love😍😍😍
From a purely biological point of view, falling in love is just a ploy of evolution to bring together two people who could continue the human race. But when we are infatuated with someone, we think less about the tricks of nature: mainly because we are under the influence of the hormones dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, testosterone and estrogen. It is this explosive cocktail that gives birth to those “butterflies in the stomach” - when the heart beats faster and the breath takes away.
The feeling of inspiration only intensifies from the fact that we begin to unconsciously project all our unrealized dreams and hopes onto a new lover. We begin to dream about a bright future with him: about how all our wishes will come true, how we will get everything that we did not receive in childhood, and will not face the disappointments that we experienced in past relationships. No matter how cynical it may sound, hormones do not allow us to think sensibly and logically, but this is not something to be ashamed of: after all, it is not for nothing that the feeling of falling in love is considered one of the most exciting in a person’s emotional range. It's not a sin to enjoy it.
2. Stage two: creating a couple🥰🥰🥰🥰
At this stage, the lovers' feelings become deeper, they have common goals - and, in the end, they form a strong couple (mainly through marriage).At the same time, they have children, they buy a car, an apartment together, plan for the future and demonstrate to the whole world that from now on they are, as we used to like to say, “a single cell of society.”
This stage is a period of joy and pleasure from the fact that you can simply be together. Hormones no longer have the same power, but you feel a deeper connection. Sex also becomes, although less frequent and calmer, more meaningful and still just as satisfying. A feeling of security, orderliness and solidity appears. At this moment, many couples miss the past intensity of emotions a little, but still they like this stage of their relationship much more, because right now they feel that their love is stable as never before, and nothing can change it.
3.Stage three: disappointment😔😔😔😔
Of course, no one said that relationships were easy, but you were clearly not ready for such difficulties. It seems that irritation and almost physical rejection of each other arose in your couple for no reason at all. Suddenly you realize that your ideal love has been blackened to the core, and this has been going on for a very long time. Or maybe there was no love at all?
Typically, disappointment is the stage during which most marriages fall apart. It proceeds differently in different couples: some run away from each other at the first serious disagreement, while others live with a feeling of total dissatisfaction and hidden hatred for years. Of course, all this does not contribute in any way to healing the relationship - and out of despair, many lovers begin to look for ways to escape.
4.Stage Four: True, Lasting Love❣️❣️❣️❣️
After all the storms that accompanied the third stage have receded, the stage of deep and thorough reflection begins. Together, you begin to carefully analyze what happened to you before and why you were destabilized by what destabilized you. During this period, you will get to know each other better than ever, because often the root of your mutual (but, fortunately, past) adversity lies in your childhood.
At the fourth stage of a relationship, people are no longer so much lovers as they are psychologists for each other. And this is correct: data from many studies show that trauma experienced in childhood (parental divorce, domestic violence, infidelity) can directly affect how a person will behave when he grows up.At this stage, perhaps for the first time, your selfishness fades into the background: from now on, your affection for each other becomes so deep that you mutually begin to heal each other's wounds. And this not only makes the connection between you stronger - it negates any potential conflict, because both of you will already know exactly what provokes it and how to avoid it all.
5. Stage five: love that can change the world😘❤️🥰❤️‍🔥
Not everyone reaches this stage, because many couples who go through a crisis prefer to remain in the fourth stage of the relationship for the rest of their lives. And this is not bad in its own way, but still, if your love is so strong that it can spread to the entire world around you, it cannot but inspire.
The logic here is this: the two of you overcame so many problems and obstacles on the path to happiness and did not give up. So why not use your positive experiences to benefit others? This calm wisdom results first in helping one’s own children, then in helping other people’s children, even later in helping charitable organizations, and so on. Your love is already so mature that you have no need to feed it - that’s why it logically looks for outlets in other good deeds. It is this stage that is a summary of all the past decades of your relationship, when love becomes that very poetic feeling that can truly change the world. By the way, it is at this stage that some couples begin to engage in joint creativity: they co-author books, create social projects.