Hello everyone!
I'm new here on this website, and this is my first blog entry. Since my interest is the study of sexology, I would like to cover in my blog the topic of a kind of sexual relations, BDSM, and how it has become so popular nowadays in everyday relationships between a man and a woman.

My blog can be not only a kind of reflection and observation, but also a real investigation into the matter and I would like to share it with everyone out there! I will be happy to read your comments, so don’t hesitate to send in some feedback.

I have talked to different girls who had relationships with the male dominants. My blog is based only on real stories!


After screen versions of the infamous erotic bestsellers "Fifty shades of gray" and "Fifty shades darker" hit theatres across the world, the story of the first, small and humble steps of a young American woman in the world of pleasure and BDSM came to light. The novel was criticized, and the criticism was justified to tell you the truth, for being a much romanticized representation of BDSM and the relationship between those fellow practitioners both during their painful sessions and outside of the "Room of Pain".

BDSM is an interpersonal relationship with the transfer of power based on the three principles: Security, Sensibility, and Voluntarism, and a psychosexual subculture that practices such relationships in the form of role plays or life-style.
BDSM consists of five levels of relationships:
- Level one: a conditional consent

This is some kind of an agreement to play a game from time to time, maybe at the weekend.


At each level of a BDSM relationship, the level of confidence and the rights of the Dominant Partner and the Submissive Partner is clear, and everyone knows their place. There is no romance in such a relationship.

The exchange of power, Level two: a limited extended consent.

In this case, the agreement to periodic games is extended. Since this is already some kind of a relationship, the partners are getting to know each other more and more, and are trying to give each other as much pleasure as possible.

Like in a usual relationship, there’s a Trust Level:
The submissive partner has no real emotional dependence on the Dominant Partner, except the times when they play.

The exchange of power, Level three: a temporary submission.

At the third level, it’s the relationship in which the true interests of partners are clearly visible.

The exchange of power, Level four: the agreement between the Dominant Partner and The submissive one.

The exchange of power, Level five: absolute possession.

These relations are characterized by complete worship and obedience of the submissive to their Master. The master is the most important person in the life of the submissive one - now he/she is a slave.

The level of trust: A slave is convinced that the Master's decisions are not to be discussed. There are no limits because the slave is the property of the Master.


I’ve met some girls who practiced BDSM and I have found out what lead them to this. The Dominant-Submissive ones prefer the lower role of their own volition. How did it change their lives and whether they are in a romantic relationship with their Dominant Partner?

Milana is a top model:
She says: “As for me, BDSM came into my life by accident, during one of the fashion photo shoots, but then I realized that it makes my life brighter and I told my husband about it, in relationships it was always prominent, so we discovered a new world for us where he is my Master.

Valentina is a make-up artist:
I became a slave because I fell in love with the Dominant Partner, I like to be like a toy in his hands and make him happy. I just enjoy his being dominant with me. Since then, my attitude towards intimacy as a whole has changed a lot. Now, this is not just an act of getting physical satisfaction, but a very
close connection between us.

In my opinion, the heroes of the book "50 shades of gray" are quite idealized, but they have become role models for many people around the world who want to feel something new and daring in their lives. I have learned about the fifty shades and discovered a new shade for me: I hope in my article you have noticed it too, if not, then I can tell you everything in detail when we chat one-on-one?

Yours….