Finally a woman who has the wisdom and common sense to understand not "all" men are sexists!!! I have made the exact statement you wrote in your blog to many ladies here. What I was told is I am to "old fashioned" and it is a visual world now.

This is the excuse, reasoning, and or thinking these ladies have and replied to me with. They say it is not wrong to pose or speak to any man in such ways. I was told by ladies they were very serious about a relationship with me and yet they insisted that having such "revealing" photos was not an issue.

Not an issue for whom????

I may be a little old fashioned, but what I am not is a man who desires, needs, or wishes to ever be involved with any woman who thinks it is fine or acceptable to keep such photos for all to see if we are in a relationship. I am not certain when devotion and sincerity to the one you confess deep and serious feelings to ever stopped being the values all serious relationships are based around.

I was shocked and stunned to read the words "it is just photos" from a few ladies I was seriously wanting to be with. I was told it is woman's right to choose how she poses and what she reveals in her profile here. They are absolutely correct, but when these ladies were told that trusting them would not be as easy they simply did not understand why.

It is simple to understand why! If you have no issues keeping those photos on your profile and are in a so called serious relationship with a man then what do you think it creates in the mind of the man? Do you think a man wants any other man but him to see his possible future bride in such poses?

Sure we live in and age of a lot less taboo, but I do not live in an age where it is ever acceptable for a serious relationship to be about more then just two individuals. This is the
reason for so many failed relationships. When one of the two is not willing or ready to become all for the other and respect the sanctity of a "real" relationship then there is no chance for a future.

No I am not perfect and without my flaws, no one is! Yet to be told that such things are not wrong and are the choice of each individual alone. From the very beginning it is obvious and very clear that in that relationship there is never going to be a decision process that involves "both" partners!

I agree with all you said in your post and I am in a very serious relationship with a sweet and very wonderful lady. She did not put revealing photos or write to me about sex when we first met. She wrote to me about life issues and what "we" desired in our future together. I am very happy with her and our feelings have developed for each other. This is the age of love that lasting relationships lives in, not this age so many use as an excuse to justify there own need to be so open and frank!

I have done some things here that I deeply regret and thought were the true desires of some ladies, but sadly I was wrong! My desire to find love took me to that world I knew was wrong and for this I can only hope I am forgiven. It will not ever be repeated and I am
more determined and disciplined then ever to not be a part of the wrong world again.

Thank you for writing your blog here and giving me the courage and strength to see I am not alone in my thinking.