To create close relationships, it's important to have certain personality traits.

1. The first and most important is desire. Your deliberate intention to enter into a close relationship. Accepting this as your choice, for which you need to take responsibility. Sometimes it's easier for a person to get offended or blame someone else for the lack of closeness.

2. Courage. It is necessary to pursue intimacy and present yourself. Each time a person goes for intimacy, they take a risk. They risk being rejected, encountering pain, and stepping into their vulnerability.

3. The ability to trust. The ability to trust another person and the ability to trust yourself. Entrusting yourself to another person. Trust is a fragile thing, especially when a person has had negative experiences of deception or betrayal. And not necessarily in relationships with a partner—in relationships with close ones, with parents, or in childhood. This can evoke fear, shame, and other complex feelings. In case of difficulties with trust, it is necessary to restore the ability to trust in therapeutic relationships. The ability to trust is a gift.

4. Recognizing the right of another to be different. This is what is called acceptance. Understanding that the other person is not obligated to meet your expectations. Intimacy does not require anything in return. Accepting another person in all their manifestations is never easy, and in reality, it is impossible to achieve 100%. But it’s about the intention to do so. The ability to build a dialogue, to negotiate, and to accept.

5. Awareness. It allows you to feel your own boundaries and regulate their permeability. Awareness allows you to decide whom to let in and how close. Intimacy cannot be built with everyone. It's important to understand who gets what level of intimacy or distance.

Intimacy is connected with various experiences. On the way to it, a person encounters issues of loneliness, the realization of imperfection (of themselves and others), separation and acceptance of responsibility, and the definition of freedom.

But this path is wonderful because it leads a person to the possibility of being intimate. Being in contact. In love. In real relationships.

It is precisely in emotional contact that a person can process the most complex emotional experiences, transform them, grow, and develop.

Intimacy provides the opportunity to be happy alongside another person. 👩‍❤️‍👨💖