I recently came across a post from CARAMEL in which she blames men for their inability to make long-term commitments and stick to short-term affairs. She gives several reasons why, in her opinion, men avoid serious relationships. However, as a woman with considerable life experience and a deep understanding of human psychology, I want to stand up for men and shed light on the true motives of their behavior.

1. Commitment and vulnerability

CARAMEL argues that men are afraid of vulnerability and avoid long-term commitment. However, this is a simplified and one-sided view. Men, like women, may have past experiences that make them wary. However, this does not mean that they are afraid of commitment. They simply prefer to be confident in their partners before fully opening up and committing themselves to the relationship.

2. Desire for novelty

The desire for new experiences is a natural human trait and is not limited to one gender. Men who seek novelty in relationships often strive for self-development and new emotions. This does not necessarily indicate immaturity or inability to commit to a long-term relationship. Moreover, such men can bring freshness and energy to long-term relationships that will support them for many years.

3. Ego and confirmation

Yes, some men may seek confirmation of their attractiveness through changing partners. However, this is also not a unique male trait. Self-esteem and self-esteem are important components of personality that are formed not only through romantic relationships. Men who seek self-validation often do so because of social pressures and expectations rather than because of internal shortcomings.

4. Cultural and social influence

Cultural and social norms can indeed influence men's behavior. But it is worth thinking about why these norms exist and how they are formed. Men don't create them on their own; they are subject to the same societal expectations and stereotypes as women. Instead of blaming men, it is important to understand how society as a whole shapes our expectations and behavior patterns.

5. Unresolved personal problems

Yes, some men may have unresolved personal problems. But this is true for all people, regardless of gender. Personal growth and self-discovery is a long process, and each of us has our own challenges along the way. It is important to understand and support each other in this, and not judge.

6. Fear of intimacy

Fear of intimacy is a deep emotional barrier that can be present in any person. Men who experience this fear are not avoiding relationships; they are simply looking for ways to overcome their inner fears and doubts. Sympathy and understanding can help them along the way much more than criticism and accusations.

Conclusion

Instead of blaming men for their perceived inability to commit to long-term relationships, let's try to understand their motivations and needs. Only through mutual respect and open communication can we build healthy and strong relationships in which everyone feels valued and understood.

Society often imposes stereotypes and expectations on us that distort people's true motives and desires. Let's strive to see each other primarily as individuals, and not as a set of clichés and templates.

Who is right: me or “CARAMEL”?

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