Life always faces us with different people, somebody leaves us indifferent, but on the other hand, we could fall on love immediately with somebody else... Why? Why could we walk past somebody's, but could not stop staring at somebody else??? Today I have been trying to understand, why do we choose exactl person to fall in love with...
If you ask me, why did you choose you ex somewhere in past, why? Did not you see, he was not right person for you??? And I will reply, no I even did not expect him acting like an idiot :)))lol
I suppose, it happens, because there is something unconscious and uncontrolled in of our choices.All these images of people, their behaviors, who had effect on us,are saved deep deep inside, in heart and soul... And all these imagises connect with the feeling of love and adoration.That's why we can fall into a net and then fall in love very very quickly... It's, as I said, unconscious.
Another point of view, we always choose partner, who looks like our parent and even better than him/her...mmmm, let me think, no, I have not got such experience...But it does not mean, it has no sense. The main reason, some pole make such choice, because they feel kindred spirits,which make us completely happy... As one Russian journalist sais, All people like puzzles, join each other or not...
And one more variants... People who has different temperaments complement one another. But I feel, that not differences, but similarities makes really happy units.
Relationships between two people is a living organism, which is always developing, and sometimes sicks.It may recover, but may untimely die. From the very beginning of relationship, we can't see any cons in partner, we are like blind, it's not a joke... He or she is absolutely wonderful... Generally speaking NH, we fall in love with somebody, who we don't know... But when infatuation passes, we find a normal, ordinary, alive person near with all disadvantages, we could not notice earlier...
And here we have two roads... Give up or learning... Learning how to respect differences, learning how to make right conclusions, and admit our right to be not ideal... It's very important not to remake your beloved, try to see pros... And you will have the strongest unit, memories if love, happiness and joy...
To my mind, the secret of real family is communication, comfortable, not rows, mutual assent, the ability to ask, get and give support... And give the same in return...
Think over and make the next step...
Elena.