First of all, Miss Playful, you are lovely.

Men are visual creatures. Man is the pursuer. Nature has dictated this; I am not some sexist pig.
We seek the beauty (whatever our personal definition of beauty is), especially on this site, because that's all we have to work with. We love to open the prettiest present on Christmas first. After opening, we see the contents of the package.

It is not like our home countries, where we may work with or know a woman for a long time, learn her fine qualities, then express our interest. This would appear to be the perfect method of approach.
But, this too can be deceiving.
I met a woman at work. Nice looking, funny, very intelligent. I knew her for a while (we still work together) before asking her out. We went to a movie; I though we had a great time. No hanky panky, just two friends.
She ignored me afterwards.
I never received an explanation. We are still very cordial at work.
What am I trying to say?
Sometimes I wonder if it would not be better to walk up and say, "Hi! I'm David. Will you marry me?" We might have as good a chance to succeed as two people who know each other for long time.
You must rely on the things that you know are true. Who are you as a man?
This is for your own introspection.
The "attraction force" makes us seek the woman. There are certain criteria: her outward beauty, her inner beauty. The heart seeks what it wants.
The attraction force fades.
The sustaining force must assume command. (Unfortunately, most of today's lovers know nothing of this force. Look at Hollywood relationships, where the number of lives destroyed by divorce is immeasurable. To them, marriage is a parlor game...)

We learn here that love is an act, not just a feeling. What does this mean?
It means that the attraction force, the magnetic force, the thing that pulls you together, will wane. If this is what you base your relationship on, your love will die. (But she's so HOT!)
Because, in truth, this is not love, it is the force of attraction.

A very dear friend of mine once said, "Me chasing a woman is like a dog chasing a car. Once I catch it, what am I going to do with it?"
This is the perfect definition of the attraction force.
So, gentleman, after the conquest, what will you do?
The chase is done; the energy expended; the sex exhausted.
Will you give in to the "Thrill is Gone" (a great song by B.B.King) approach, or will you see that now, in this phase, love is an ACT. It is what you DO regarding your beloved. You love her in spite of what she does, not because of it. Her flaws mean nothing. She is your wife, first, foremost, above all else.
Whatever happens, you love her. You ACT lovingly toward her. This is the love that sees you through; not the "attraction force."

I have been blessed to meet the woman of my dreams on this site.
At first, her beauty attracted me. I am a man. But, the tenor of her letters, the things she chose to say, the kindness of her tone revealed to me that this is the woman I wanted.

I will see her in September.

David