Yes, it seems illogical and mysterious, but the mechanism behind it is quite simple. At some point (usually in childhood, but sometimes later in life), a person learns this equation: being rejected means something good. 😨

Love should be unattainable, and love is always tied to pain. If we dig deeper, we find the underlying belief: pain is love. This is where the confusion begins. 🙄

Perhaps the person didn’t receive enough attention from their parents, was rejected or belittled. The child was essentially unwanted, unneeded, and unloved. Gender doesn’t matter here. 😢

But what was the child supposed to do in such a situation? Somehow, they had to make sense of it, even if the understanding was flawed. No one can live without love. ❌

So, the child’s brain, not realizing that this situation is an exception rather than the rule, makes a substitution. 🤔

To bear the unbearable, the brain labels non-love, coldness, and rejection as “love.” ❤️

The problem is that this doesn’t disappear as the person grows older; it doesn’t automatically heal or come to their awareness. ❌

When someone is rejected or treated indifferently, they feel attracted to that person. This kind of treatment ignites interest, even obsession, with people who show no care for them. But as soon as mutual attraction and attention appear, indifference or, worse, rejection, kicks in. 🙁

This leads to a common behavior pattern: if you reject me, you’re the object of my interest/affection/service. If you like me, you’re not good enough for me/unpleasant to me/I find you repulsive. 🙄

Now that you see this mechanism from the inside, you understand it’s just a trick the brain plays. Don’t think that just because you feel this way, it represents the real you. 💖

The thought “Well, that’s just who I am… nothing can be done about it” is a mistake that leads to a life filled with sorrow. But that’s not you. ❌

It’s an old injury, a program imposed by difficult circumstances that has become outdated but still runs your life, unaware that times have changed. Now, you have every chance for love and a happy family. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦💕

How do you deal with this? It won’t go away on its own, and you can’t help yourself through it. You need the assistance of a good therapist with experience in handling such cases. 👍

And instead of a life full of disappointment, pain, and heartache, everything can be resolved in just a few sessions with a skilled professional. Then, you can live a life full of love and happiness with someone you like and who likes you back. 🥰

You deserve to always be the only one, cherished and wanted! ❤️