BRAVO on your post!!! It's excellent !
I have many men friends who can not comprehend what you just said. It's a 100% accurate. Maybe I naturally know this because I grew up in a house full of women. 5 sisters , all girl cousins and nieces. Not to mention all their girlfriends were constantly over.
I also have to add women place an emotional attachment to everything they have. You ask her where did you get this item. They can remember every detail including the weather that day. They never forget!
There's a million ways for a man to go wrong. But only 1 way to fix it.
A relationship is a two way street.
Both people must give as equally as they can. In doing what the others want.
If I have one thing to say.
Women get possessive over a home. And every woman wants a hard working man. But you also must remember the home is both of yours. Over the years I've seen men from every social class not feel welcome in their own homes any more. Because their woman got territorial over it. Always giving him chores projects to do outside the house. So he could not relax or feel comfortable in his own home. When a man has a man cave it's the beginning to the end in that relationship. The problems a rise .
That home you ladies claim you share is no longer his home. He is an outsider looking in. The man starts feeling it's a house to him not a home. A house has no emotional attachment a home does.
Once a man becomes detached emotionally from the home. He becomes emotionally detached to you and his family. He will want to go home to see his mother and family. Because he feels wanted and needed there. Where he doesn't in now the house / flat you share.
His mother will see this and cater to him. So will his family. He's becomes more emotionally reattached to them. Than he does you or his family with you.
Mothers have a tendency to sense all their children . Even if they are adults. A mothers nature is to comfort her child and make him feel loved, accepted, respected and appreciated . It's only natural since they have done that since his birth.
So my suggestion is ladies your home needs not to be territorial . Not his/ hers it's has to be ours , we , us , and both.
I read an article a while back about men who have cheated. Most of them said they got bored in the relationship.
But after digging deeper into this. These men felt emotionally pushed out of their homes and unwanted there by their women. It was simply to stay away from their homes. When asked they felt the need for appreciation and acceptance by someone. So by meeting another who filled that void they couldn't get at home. They began to cheat. Every woman knows how competitive women are.
When you see a good man with a bad woman. You just want to get her away from him. Because you believe your better than she is. So you are more likely to rescue him from her grasp.
It's a challenge for you to prove yourself as the better woman.
Also then there's women who believe their love and attention will make a man change. IT WONT EVER HAPPEN !!!
You want proof ? Watch how his dad, brothers, and men in his family treat their women. It's hard wired into his mentality. He maybe a little better. But in 90% of the time he will not be! So look at how his family treats women . Your almost certainly looking into your future. How he will treat you. Don't sugar coat it to look at it positively. Look at the true reality of it. If you see negative behavior of a man treating a woman bad in that family . He will almost always do the same to you.
Apples do not fall far the tree!
But men need to respect women like they respect their mothers and grandmothers.
But please do not be a mommies boy! Be a man lead but remember you have a partner.
Ukrainian / Russian men are not all alpha males!!! Theirs a lot of beta males there as well. They are all not dominant men like the stories you here. That's a complete myth.
I know a lot of them . Real life is not Hollywood movies. Or glamour mags.
Every woman is different so don't be to alpha or to beta!!! Be yourself they appreciate you more by being real. Same goes for the women . People need to quit wearing masks. Be who you are!