We always are searching for happiness in independence... Firstly in independence from parents, then -from man, work, children... But is it way for real happiness?
You know, independence is that thing, which are sold by mass media, on TV and actually in out society all over the world... They say if the woman wants to be happy, she should be independent.She needs to provide herself and do only what she wants...It's an amazing picture, is not it? But what is the price if such a wonderful life?
I suppose, when we are independent we are totally lonely... Relationships with man could not be deep, and actually exists... Where is the man's place in life of such too much independent women? Nowhere!!!
So, there is a kind of misunderstanding, what is wrong and what should we do with such a "treasure" like this famous independence... You know, that there is an alternative way... Called self-sufficiency!
And you know self-sufficient woman could be really happy, and it does not matter does she has a man or no at this particular moment. Yes she could make decisions herself, but when there is man with her, she could simply ask for help... And it does not mean, she totally depends on him. The most important,she support and respect her man and gets the same in return.
Self-sufficient woman won't go to work immediately after she gave a birth to a child, she will be satisfied with her motherhood... And maybe it looks like unfreedom for somebody, but not for me... It seems kids keep you on the same place, take away your sleep and hobby... But such happiness doesn't not depends on any circumstances.
Self-sufficient woman won't be demand presents, restaurants, diamond and money, and expensive sport car...She is happy emotionally with her man.
She does not totally depend on her job, her friends and relatives, she knows her desires and always can something interesting to learn.
She wear what she likes, even it's not fashionable now, she eats what she wants, she does what she wants and it does not matter how it looks for other people. She does not prove anything to anybody... She value her inner world, it's her real treasure. She is self-sufficient...She has enough to be happy...I prefer this quiet, calm picture ,it shows me harmony and charm.
I don't want to be independent, I want to be self-sufficient...I know I am in the right life road, but have to learn much much more... I want to discover how to feel happy right here and right now!!!
Elena.