Your words are so true. After receiving about 4000 letters , thousands of offers to chat. It's impossible for me to respond to everyone. Like I would care to.
After reading countless letters and seeing the expectations and doubts of many ladies on this site. It leaves me wondering if many people men and women have entitlement issues. Believing they are more deserving than what reality is going to give them.
When I've read goals, hopes, dreams, mentalities , and more I am left shaking my head. In reality we have no true rights. We are blessed with gifts and set backs. In which we live through and adjust accordingly to.
I've personally met many women from Ukraine and Russia who married men I know. Trained them for jobs, helped with English and many other things.
The shocking truth is they had to learn to adapt. Things will not always go your way with the best laid plans.
I found this more true teaching English to Eastern Europeans. Who married moved to another country and found adapting to their new home no matter where it was extremely challenging .
Once they forgot their beliefs, ideologies , mentalities and focused to just accepting their transition became smoother. Even the best plans fail.
You can only cook, clean, and do so much. Before you need to find a purpose. After on average of 3 months these women got so bored at home they were going crazy.
The best thing for them to do was find not a hobby or craft was to find a simple basic job or seek out something in their field. It allowed to grow and adapt so much faster. Men if you can't be home to spend a ok of time with her daily. Your going to have huge problems! Time is critical! So if your planning to work 2 jobs to pay for everything now. Your going to strain your marriage fast. If your expecting her to get a job instantly and ride off into the sunset your fooling yourself . SHE NEEDS YOU! YOUR HER WHOLE WORLD! Ladies if your planning traveling and having fun. Big trips right away your deceiving yourself . Especially if you have a child. Your going to get a very rude awakening. That's going to lead into huge disappointment .
Also the additional expenses will affect you. You better be ready for them. I'm not joking about this. Water, heat, food, transportation and more will start mounting. It took every woman I knew who moved to another country 1 year to get a good grasp of reality there. I'm not just talking the US I'm talking every country even Europe . Learning where things are, the foods, just the basic things come into effect. Things everyone takes for granted that you know at home. Would you know it in another country that you have never been to before?
People need to quit living in a fantasy.
Also ladies some of the questions I get asked about. I'm not going to ever answer . Like breast size, does this look sexy on me, and trap questions. If a gentleman didn't like them on you. If he likes you, your looks and is talking to you he likes you. It cost money to talk to a lady. Money doesn't grow on trees!
One of the things I must say I think is s brilliant idea is when women put a selfie of them in a letter. Not a professional photo. A quick camera selfie is vital. Men are not always looking for the perfect woman. They are looking for imperfect woman who is perfect for them.
I love it when a woman puts photos of herself as she is at home naturally. It says a lot about her. That she is representing her true self. To you as a person means she is more trustworthy.
I've seen ladies letters about other women some were a bit brutal but frank.
A great example of this: a lady told me she says some of these women look like witches at home. But when they leave the house they look like movie stars.
Think about that statement for a moment. Your representing yourself in public better than to your man? Who your supposed to love. Even in your profiles you have insanely beautiful photos. Yet if a man meets you in person after he travels to see you or you go to him. How will he feel at that time? My guess would be very deceived , tricked, and disappointed. Like in the previous blog her words of wisdom are so true and accurate. The world is filled with beautiful people! Why is most the world so unhappy then?
When we chose VANITY over being real with ourselves and others. We're setting ourselves up for failure. Why do it?
This site gives you a chance to dig deep into the heart and soul of an individual.
Use it as a gift!!! Not for personal gain.
Looks fade, youth disappears, once you lose time you can't get it back!
The key to love begins with you! Then finding out who is compatible to who you are! After you discover who you are.
If money and things buy happiness why are so many rich people married and divorced so many times. Look at celebrities as. a perfect example. Lust, chemistry, spark, connection , desire are just dead end roads. Especially if your not compatible. Compatibility is not things in common or likes. It's who you truly are based off your morals, values , ethics, character , belief system . Right and wrong deep in your core. Those are your true needs! Your needs will over take your wants anyway . If chemistry, attraction, spark connection work so well? Why do so many people who got married based on that end up divorced.
Live in the real world communicate openly be frank. Demand answers to your satisfaction. Forget your pride or offending someone. How offended will you be if you marry, divorce and have a spilt up family. Simply based on the fact you refuse to ask and demand the right answers . You only will have yourself to blame in the long run! Don't go in with the ideology you can change that person! It will not work! Look at all those who are divorce. Ask them how will it worked for them? Not very well did it.
Think about what you have a chance to do on this site! Use it right. I'm certain they want more success stories than failures. The greater the success they have helping people the better for their business . We all can win if we want to!