Love and Acceptance as the Foundation of Trusting Relationships
Friendship between parents and children begins with love and acceptance, and there is no place for judgment or criticism. It is important to show children that they are accepted as they are, even if their behavior is not always ideal. Such unconditional support gives the child confidence that he can come to you at any time without fear of being judged. This is the basis on which trust and strong relationships are built.
Be open to dialogue
True friendship is impossible without communication, and this is especially important with children. Try to make sure your child always has the opportunity to come and talk about their thoughts, fears, or worries. To become a “friend,” you need to learn to listen to them the way you would listen to your close friends — with understanding and without unnecessary “lecturing.” When children see that you are ready to listen to them without judging, they begin to share their problems and joys, strengthening the bond.
Maintain boundaries: friendship does not exclude authority
Being a friend does not mean giving up parental authority. A child needs not only support and understanding, but also clear boundaries that help him feel safe. For example, if you have agreed on certain rules or obligations, they must be followed. Being a friend means not turning a blind eye to behavior that requires correction, but doing so with respect and understanding.
Support, but do not control
It is important for parents to know what is happening in a child’s life, but excessive control can destroy the atmosphere of trust. If you want to be someone your child can turn to in difficult times, show them that you support their decisions and are willing to help, but do not invade their personal space. For example, when teenagers face difficulties, instead of punishing them, it is better to offer help and discuss possible solutions together.
Be a model of honesty and openness
As in friendship, children notice how their parents behave and treat others. If you want your child to trust you, demonstrate honesty and openness. Be willing to admit your mistakes and talk about your feelings. When children see that you not only talk about honesty but also practice it yourself, they begin to perceive you as a reliable friend to whom they can trust their thoughts.
Spend time together, creating shared memories
Nothing strengthens friendships more than spending time together. Organize family evenings, outings, game days, or just nice dinners where everyone can feel calm and open. Doing things together is not only a way to have fun, but also an opportunity to build trust and friendship, because shared memories create a special bond.
Teach them independence and responsibility
As a friend to a child, it is important not to forget about the need to instill in them the skills of independence and responsibility. A true friend not only supports, but also guides, suggests when it is better to take a step on their own and when to ask for help. Pay attention to the child learning to make decisions and take responsibility for them - this will strengthen their confidence and help them become an independent person. Being a friend and a parent at the same time is an art that requires love, patience and openness. Our children need those who will both support and guide them, so it is important to find a balance that will allow them to feel safe and at the same time be sure that there is always a reliable person nearby who is ready to help. After all, when friendship and respect reign in the family, the child receives the very foundation that helps him grow up happy and confident. Do you think it is possible to become a real friend to your children? Yours, Nadya.