You know, I have always been emotional, and it seems that tears are in my nature. How many times have I thought: "Enough, I will not cry anymore!" But then something small happens, and here they roll again. For some reason, these are the moments that are the most painful. So in this blog I will try to figure out how to find the strength to hold back, so as not to break under the weight of sadness. Why do we cry?
When I started asking myself this question, I realized that tears are not always a sign of weakness. This is a natural response to pain, disappointment, sometimes even fatigue. At some point, they become something like an automatic reaction, which sometimes helps to throw out emotions, and sometimes - only adds heaviness.
But maybe instead of just stopping crying, you need to understand how to deal with what is behind it? After all, it's not just about the tears, but about the feelings that cause them.
Learning to cry differently
I once read that you can cry "in different ways." And these are not only tears from pain. We cry from joy, from gratitude, from some bright moments of happiness - and then they bring us lightness. Maybe the point is to allow yourself tears when they are associated with something good? I began to notice that it becomes easier for me if I cry "softly" - letting go of emotions, but not immersing myself in them completely. It's like taking a break and just exhaling everything that has accumulated. So now I'm learning this, every day.
How to "switch" in the moment
Here are a couple of simple tricks that help me switch when tears are about to gush. Focus on breathing. Taking a deep breath in and out several times helps to stop the storm of emotions and not let them get the better of me.
Hug yourself (yes, literally). It's like a reminder to myself that I am my own support. You know, it's amazing, but sometimes even the simplest physical touch helps to calm down. Think about something happy or funny. Turning your thoughts to something else is a great way to "trick" yourself in the moment. Sometimes I remember something ridiculous or funny, and this softens the emotional background.
Tears as a release.
In the end, perhaps the question is not about not crying, but about finding a balance. Cry only when it really brings relief, and not heaviness. Learn to experience emotions deeply, but with ease, with the belief that any tear will always be followed by a moment of peace and light.
With warmth and understanding, Maria.