We are all are the same. Yet we believe we are so different. Do you not
put your pants on 1 leg at a time? Do you not have 2 eyes , 2 ears, 1 heart, 1 soul. If you think your still different from most your not being realistic with yourself.
To many people have self entitlement issues believing they have rights. In reality what imaginary rights do you have? That can't be taken away in a instant from you.
So many people wear masks to cover their mental and emotional flaws. They forget who they truly are. Have you really found your authentic self?
It's a path way most will never wish to take. For many dubious reasons.
but if they did. They could maximize their own potential. This journey begins with who are your parents really? In order to discover that you must accept they are human just like you. With talents and faults like you.
no one is perfect no one will ever be. First discover each parents 3 most negative traits , then their 3 most positive traits. Then ask your grandparents uncles and aunts about their childhood. How they lived and their life growing up as a child . Then find out your grandparents 3 positive
and 3 negative traits. See how those traits defined your parents lives as children. How it followed them to adulthood. You will see how they parented you. Now look at the 3 you felt you never received as a child growing up and the 3 positive traits they have given you.
Typically women at a younger age are attracted subconsciously to their fathers worst traits. I call it their comfort zone. Leading into a false sense of security and comfortability with that man. Who posses her fathers 3 most negative traits. By the age of late 20's to 30's those traits are not very appealing to those women. Subconsciously they feel they are repeating their parents lives. So the woman always insists about major changes from that man. But by now it's way to late. Frustration mounts and becomes unbearable to her. Another key component is every woman believes she will be a better mother to her children than her mother. As well her family is going to have a lot better life than her. But in reality she's
often mirrored her parents marriage. And shel starts recognizing this fact.
Which greatly upsets her mentally and emotionally. She turns to her partner wanting him now to lose those negative traits her father has. And meeting or exceeding her fathers 3 best traits. When her partner fails to accomplish this. The relationship begins to crumble. Because her 3 basic core needs are no longer being met by her partner. So the woman feels she has a partner who will never fulfill her needs mentally and emotionally.
So she feels he's lazy, selfish , inadequate , or more.
The strangest thing is every guy I know and woman who openly and objectively looked at this seriously agreed with all of this.
But here comes the biggest twist. According to a European study that was printed in Time mag, 2008 or 2009 January issue. This study found out some truly strange things. It was listed as the most comprehensive study of human behavior. They stated women who never took birth control.
Were only attracted to opposite pheromones . Women who took birth control were only attracted to similar or matching pheromones.
Women who never used birth control almost never got divorced. But the women who did. Had a near 90% divorce rate. The question became why? They also noticed that these women averaged 2 children. So what they suggested was that after 2 children a woman's body completely reset itself. Making her now after 2 children no longer attracted to her husband or father of her children.
Pheromones affect every aspect of our attraction process. The way some walks, talks, mannerism, and more. It's natures way of insuring healthy reproduction. After all we are animals literally.
So it's my opinion that these two factors have led us into the society type relationships we have today. Where morals, values , core belief systems we grew up with have been altered. By many divorces and blended families. Years ago you knew everything about a person. Shared the same beliefs, culture and traditions. Also everyone knew your inside life as well as your outside life. It was a much more open society than today's.
If one goes back to the 1950's up to 1970 . You discover a vast difference in how people got a long and lived. Most marriages back then lasted a life time compared to today's standards.
Just my observation. Right wrong or indifferent it's my opinion. If you agree or disagree with me that's fine.
But I think we all will say something has changed our lives compared to years ago. Technology is a lame excuse! Because look how radically those peoples lives changed so fast.