Let's talk about a situation that is probably familiar to everyone: someone is trying to give you advice. But instead of being helpful, this advice sounds like an instruction, criticism, or even devaluation of your efforts.

Today, I, a woman, will tell you how we, women, try to help, but often do it the wrong way. 😅 Perhaps, while reading this, you will learn something about yourself, and most importantly, you will understand how to avoid conflicts and achieve mutual understanding. 🤝

🟢Make him feel like an expert

It is important for men to feel that they can handle things on their own. 💪 If you want to give advice, it’s better to start by acknowledging his competence:
“You’re doing great, but I thought you might be interested in trying something like this?”
This approach doesn’t put a man in the position of a “student” who is being lectured, but rather emphasizes his independence. 🌟

🔵Don’t start with criticism

“You’re doing it wrong!” is a phrase that irritates almost any man. 🤯 Instead of focusing on mistakes, it’s better to focus on the positive aspects:
“You’re doing great, and if you add this, it will be even better!”

Praise first, then offer – this “sandwich” 🥪 works much more effectively.

🟡Speak clearly and to the point

Men appreciate specifics. 💡 If you want your advice to be heard, avoid long explanations or vague wording.

Instead of:

“I think maybe we should try something different…”

Say:

“How about doing it this way? I think it might work.”

A clear proposal evokes respect and a desire to discuss. ✅

🟣Ask, don’t impose

Direct advice sometimes sounds like orders. 🚦 It’s much more effective to ask a question that will make a man think:

“Do you think this will work?”
“What if we try doing it a little differently?”

When a man comes to a decision on his own, it will not only be more useful, but also more enjoyable for him. 🎯

🔴Respect his right to choose

Not every piece of advice should be accepted, and that’s okay. 👍 Sometimes he may decide that he can handle it his own way. Respecting his choice is an important component of a trusting relationship. 💞

A phrase like:

“Your idea sounds cool too, let's see how it goes!”

Allows him to maintain his self-confidence and shows that you support him. 🤝
🟤 Don't interrupt during the process

A man may start explaining why he does exactly this way, and at this point it is important not to try to convince him right away. 🛑 Let him speak, and then gently suggest:

“Okay, I understand your logic. What if we try this option?”

The sequence is important: first listen, then suggest. 🎙️

🟠 Remember: advice is not control

Sometimes the desire to “prompt” is perceived by a man as an attempt to take control. 🤨 If you really want to help, make sure that your goal is to give an opportunity, and not to demonstrate that you know better. 🧘‍♀️

Men, let's be honest: advice is not always about what you are doing wrong. 💁‍♀️ It is an attempt to support, improve the situation or simply introduce something new. But we, women, need to remember that you value respect, trust and the right to make decisions independently. 💯

And if we advise more often with care, and not with criticism, we will be able to establish that very dialogue that is valuable for everyone. 🧡

Nastya🌸✨