Dear Ladies and Gentlemen,
Today my post is for everyone to discuss. Let’s talk over the following situation: a young man wants a girl, yes, he wants to make love to her – it’s a common situation nowadays. But what does he start with? He starts to love her at once? No, first make friends and show his friendliness. There is, naturally, some kind of attraction, which you need to express and find a name for it. Let’s call it friendship or maybe love?
You can think up a more beautiful explanation: "I fell in love with you, so I want you!" That's right, girls like this treatment much more. And what is really the basis of friendship and love? To begin with, let’s define it. What is friendship? I just want to say, a clear definition of this phenomenon does not exist, probably, it cannot be at all because it is subjective. To begin with, I will cite this: "FRIENDSHIP is one of the types of personal relationships. Unlike functional, business relationships, where one person uses the other as a means to achieve some of their goals, friendship is valuable; it is in itself the Good. Friends help each other selflessly, "not as a service, but in friendship." Unlike family ties or blood ties, family affinity, whose members are bound by common affiliation and ties of group’s solidarity, friendship is individually selective, free and based on mutual sympathy. Unlike superficial acquaintance, friendship is a deep and intimate relationship, suggesting not only loyalty and mutual assistance, but also inner affinity, frankness, trust, and… love. It is not for nothing that we call a friend our alter ego ("the other Me"). By nature of its motivation, friendship differs from love-erotic, sexual feelings and relationships." It’s taken from Encyclopedia. All in all, this definition includes being appreciated, and sympathy, unselfishness, intimacy, trust, and love.

Friendship is a really valuable thing; it is in itself the good. Friends help each other selflessly, "not as a service, but in friendship." There is a suspicion that this concept is a popular romantic stamp, beautiful, strong motive from movies, poems and novels, but it’s far from reality. Not every friendship is good, and in itself it costs nothing without filling with definite actions, and also understanding of motives of these actions. There is no more common manipulation than the phrase "not as a service, but in friendship", for example: "Take my mother-in-law to the airport". It seems like a friend, it's not good to refuse, and you say, I'll take her. This phrase refers to the assimilated stamp - a friend must always be helped.

There are many kinds of love. We can say there’s love between friends, but then, for starters, again, we need to decide on "love" and then formulate how friendly relations differ from the unfriendly (probably, those of the enemy). Why do we need definitions that raise more questions than answers? Here's a shorter one. Friendship is "a close relationship based on mutual trust, affection, and community of interests". Close relations - an intuitive expression, but it is interesting, how is the closeness of relations is measured? Is there a degree of intimacy and when this degree ceases to be so? With confidence it is more understandable, it is the belief that what is said, a trusted friend will not be used to the detriment of the speaker. Having a feeling of attachment - dependence on any benefits, mental, material, emotional ones, which gives another person to you. Often, attachments are painful. If a friend stops feeding his/her emotional experiences, he/she is no longer a friend?

Many men intuitively think that making love to a girl can happen sooner through friendship. And girls like friendship to start a relationship, because it gives a lot of spiritual benefits, plus a sense of security - it's just a friend.
One of my girlfriends sees regularly "friends with
benefits" - different young people and by a strange coincidence she happens to be with them in bed - first for a massage, then just to spend the night. The strategy is very good, and I’ll explain why: she seems to have a permanent man with whom she makes love to regularly, but on the other hand, she is always looking for other partners, so "naively" begins to be friends with different young people.
Dear readers, I have a question to you: do you make friends to make love later or friends are just friends for you and that’s it? Do you think you should have friends with benefits?
I’m looking forward to your ideas on the topic.
Yours Vera, Your Hope…