Childhood and old scripts
Often we absorb the idea of ​​love from our family. If as a child we were loved "on conditions" (for example, if you behaved well, you were praised, and if not, you were ignored), then we begin to believe that love must be earned. 🤷‍♀️
Now imagine that you meet a person who behaves distantly or critically. Sound familiar? That's what draws us to where we hope to finally "earn" that very love.

Adrenaline instead of happiness
A relationship where you are thrown into the warmth and then into the cold is like a roller coaster. 🎢 You experience euphoria when everything is good, then fall into sadness when something goes wrong. Such "emotional swings" are addictive. Adrenaline hits the brain, and we confuse this storm of feelings with true love. 😵‍💫

Fear of being alone
Sometimes we are more afraid of being alone than of a bad relationship. Especially if it seems to us that "it's impossible to find anything better" or that there is at least something with this person. This belief prevents us from leaving, even if he hurts. 😟

Why do we continue to endure?
Hope for the best
"He will change. He's just going through a difficult period now." Did you find out? We hold on to the hope that one day a person will become the way we want them to be. But the truth is that no one changes by magic. 💔

Low self-esteem
When there is a feeling inside that you “don’t deserve more,” we attract people who confirm this feeling. Such relationships may seem “normal,” although in reality they are not.

He knows how to be good
Often, such people not only hurt, but also give bright moments of happiness. It is these rare moments that keep us close. We cling to them as proof that “he is good, it’s just hard for him.”

How to get out of this circle?
Acknowledge that you are in pain
Sounds obvious, but many of us try to justify our partner. “Well, he didn’t do it on purpose,” “It’s my own fault.” No! If you feel pain, this is a signal that something is wrong. 🚨

Love yourself
Easy to say, right? But it works. The more you respect yourself, the less you will tolerate bad treatment. Start with the simple: remember what makes you happy, do what you love, surround yourself with supportive people. 💕

Set boundaries
Your value does not depend on someone's attitude towards you. Tell yourself: "I am worthy of love that brings joy, not pain." And if a person violates your boundaries, think about whether he is worth you? 🤔

Don't be afraid to leave
It's scary, but sometimes you need to take a step back in order to move forward. Leaving a destructive relationship is not about weakness, but about courage. 🌱

I went through this too. Once it seemed to me that love is about enduring, forgiving, fighting. But then I realized: true love should not be a fight. It gives warmth, support, joy. 💖
You deserve to be happy. No less.

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