Hey everyone! 💕

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about something that’s kind of been weighing on my mind. I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s ever been in this situation, but I want to be honest with you — it’s something that’s hard to admit, especially when you’re really into someone. So here goes:

How do you deal with the fact that the guy you’re talking to might also be talking to other women?

Let’s face it: online dating and modern relationships can be tricky. In an ideal world, when you find someone you like, they’d be just as focused on you as you are on them, right? But unfortunately, reality is a little more complicated. When you’re getting to know someone, especially at the beginning, there’s always the possibility that they’re talking to other people at the same time. It’s normal, it’s natural, but it doesn’t always feel good.

Now, I’m not saying I expect someone to be exclusively mine the moment we start chatting (let’s be honest, that’s a lot of pressure!). But deep down, there’s that little voice that wonders: Is he thinking about me the way I’m thinking about him? And the worst part? Is he having those same exciting, flirty conversations with someone else?

It’s tough, right? 😕

I’m the kind of person who tends to get attached quickly. When I connect with someone, I can’t help but want to invest in them. I get excited about the idea of building something together — even if it’s just a few messages exchanged at first. And maybe it’s silly, but there’s a part of me that hopes that he’s just as excited about me, too.

But here’s the truth I’ve had to come to terms with: He doesn’t owe me anything. He’s a free person, just like me. And while I’m excited to get to know him, it’s only fair that he has the right to meet and talk to other people too. We all want to find the right match, the one person who makes us feel special and important. But until that happens, it’s okay to explore different connections.

This isn’t easy for someone who wants to be exclusive right away, but I’ve learned that being patient is key. Instead of stressing over whether or not he’s talking to other women, I should focus on what’s happening right here, right now. If we enjoy each other’s company, we enjoy the conversation, the laughs, the flirty moments — then that’s something special, right?

And if I do find out that he’s seeing someone else too, it doesn’t mean I’m not special. It just means he’s still exploring his options — and so am I. Dating is a process of finding out who truly clicks with you. So, rather than stress over who he’s talking to, I’ll focus on what we have and whether it’s worth pursuing further. I can’t make anyone choose me, but I can be myself and see where the journey takes us. ✨

To be honest, I think it all comes down to trust. If you’re talking to someone who’s genuinely kind, respectful, and honest with you, then they’ll give you the space to make your own choices, too. If the connection is strong enough, it’ll naturally evolve into something exclusive — no pressure, no games.

Now, I’m curious to hear from all of you: How do you handle it when the person you like is also talking to others? Do you get jealous? How do you keep your cool? I’d love to hear your advice. 🥰

As always, thanks for reading. I’ll be here, working on not stressing out over the little things. It’s all part of the process, right?

With love,
Anna 💋