🧐 Judgment: where does it come from? Often we judge others because it gives us a sense of control or self-confidence. When we see someone who doesn't conform to our ideas of the “norm”, it's as if it confirms that we are in the right. But this is just an illusion.
What happens when we judge?
Negativity is reinforced. Instead of solving a problem, we create a new one. Judgment makes others feel unwanted, rejected, and sometimes humiliated.
We lose connection with others. Judgment can destroy any relationship, whether it be friends, coworkers, or just acquaintances. People don't want to connect with those who constantly criticize them.
We lose our ability to empathize. When we judge, we forget that each person has their own story, their own struggles and experiences. Everyone goes through their own journey and we don't always see the whole picture.
💔 How do you avoid being judgmental?
Stop comparing yourself to others. Instead of looking for flaws in people, focus on their strengths. This doesn't mean turning a blind eye to obvious problems, but you can look for ways to help instead of judging.
Ask yourself questions. Before you say anything, ask yourself: "Why do I feel this way? Is this something personal to me or am I trying to understand the other person?" The more questions, the less judgment.
Be kinder. We all need support, especially during difficult times. If we are more tolerant and understanding, the world will be a much better place.
✨ Conclusion. There is enough and so much judgment, hostility, and criticism in the world. Let's not add our negative thoughts to it. Instead, let's try to develop love, respect, and support. After all, we all deserve attention and acceptance for who we are. 🦋