Ana, I'll try to help if possible.You say you're already 28, and it seems you feel that old and maybe there's more going on than just getting older. Whatever, Honey, this is one thing you do not rush! We're talking about a Life Partner here and at 28 you have a long time to go even before you reach my age of 70 years, yet I am single and searching too. I think we were all made for Love, to love and to be loved and your sweet time is coming, I know it. First of all, do you present the Woman who would be acceptable to the man you look for? That should be first priority. While you get yourself ready, consider what you need in a man. You know they come ready made, but not made to order; meaning you'll probably not find exactly what you deem perfect for you. If you do consider yourself very lucky or know you did exactly the right things in presenting yourself to attract the man you want. To me, you are exquisite and I love you as you are. No one should be in the market for something human they think they can change. Even at your young age, you or anyone else will never change another human being without some form of torture or surgery (remember Frankenstein). Yeah, that just doesn't go well usually.
Second, as in any big decision, a sheet of paper and a pencil always help me, You need to list what you Need as opposed to what you Want, then a third category; what you will comfortably settle for. You need to get your priorities in order first! Now, where will you shop for your man, and I've seen mistakes made here by the jillions! Shopping for a Life Partner is different than shopping for a drinking buddy. So, do you go to Church or to the local watering holes, and what is in between. I've seen marriages work when the contestants were from both the aforementioned establishments, but I have no statistics
on the pass/fail rates. This is the hardest part of the whole scenario and it is why we are both here. I want to ask you; Do you actively seek out men's profiles and write to them? If not, why not? Isn't that why they are here also? Sure, there are those here for different entertainment reasons., and it's sometimes hard to weed them out by reading a profile. And here, Chat is your best tool for learning personality traits online, but you must allow for the inevitable misunderstandings involved due to language and customs of different civilizations and countries. Letters are very important to me here as I get to express my views uninterrupted and unchallenged while trying to maintain a nonverbal flow that I hope will turn out readable and understandable. Here I have time and the options of proof reading and corrections. The spoken word is hardly retractable; once said or typed in chat, it is there! Use Chat and letters and sound out your ideas and desires to the man you choose to write to. Quite possibly, this will work for you as it did for the lady who captured me last October and returned to recapture me again last week.
You are so beautiful in form and face, and you have so much more beauty inside you that should never be ignored. To go with all of that, you're highly intelligent, perceptive, sweet and did I say beautiful? It warrants being said again. Most of all, never lose faith in yourself and do not give up your confidence. You're really something admirable, so be proud of it! You're also quite a catch, so hold your head up, smile a lot and be happy and you'll win your prize. I have all the respect in the world for you; stay UP and you'll win!