First off this blog is directed toward just the ladies here.

I have been on this site for 4 years now. I have had a few long term relationships if you want to call them that. I use the term relationship to describe them but in all honesty they were no more then long acquaintances as a meeting with these ladies has never come to be.
Things just did not work out between us and the reasons do not need to be discussed. What I want to write about here is a few topics that have been a very big issue for me here.

I cannot count the many times I have been written to by ladies I have not once chatted with or sent a letter to who have made their first contact to me all about sex. All to often my inbox and chat has been flooded by mention of threesomes, sexual desires, and words that would make a nun blush.
Is this really how you are? Is this the most important aspect of your future with me? Is sex so vital a topic for you that you ask a complete stranger to talk to you about it in your very first contact with me? Do you take the time to regard what kind of first impression this gives me of you before you write? I am sorry ladies but it really does not make me want to get to know you.
Secondly why is it when a man refuses to answer you and simply deletes your chat request you immediately write him and call him a player, say he is not real, and is not serious? This is a marriage site and I speak for only myself. I do not reply to every woman who writes me. It is my choice who I answer and who I do not. This makes me unreal?
So all I wish to put forth here today is my thoughts to you ladies and let you all understand me a bit more. I look for serious talks about a serious future here. Talks about how we see our life together. How we decide our financial matters. How we choose our home. How we think about having children. Whether we both have jobs. How we spend our free time together. What we like and do not like. Important aspects of a marriage.
Sex is not a topic two people just meeting should ever discuss until they are both very sure just how serious their future is to them both.