THIS IS NOT AN OPINION... Ask this... Does a women walk behind the man as they walk down the isle for marriage...NO, they join hands and walk beside each other...Does the women stand behind the man as they recieve their vows of committment to each other...NO...they stand side by side. Marriage is a responsability that is shared EQUALLY among the partnership. The only way my wife would ever be placed behind me, is if were in defense of her honor and the safety of our family..!!