This blog is in response to Tabasco's (Iryna) post.

I agree with you and your questions are very founded. Firstly let us get one thing perfectly clear. Women are NOT 100% to blame or responsible for the cheating of men. Cheaters may say it is because their mate has lost the desire for intimacy, say the marriage or relationship has gone stagnant, and may even say they need more then what they get from their mate.
Well frankly these are ALL nothing more then a pathetic set of excuses, justifications, and a way to clear a cheating conscience!!! To place the blame for cheating squarely upon the shoulders of a mate is typical. This is a person who refuses to accept their own flaws and inability to be open and honest with a mate about their relationship.
There is no justification or acceptance of anyone cheating in a relationship when neither the man nor the woman has opened their mouth and made their feelings and thoughts known to their mate.

To cheat with another is absolutely treasonous and is unforgivable when the guilty have decided not to try and solve the issue or issues in their relationship.

Women are just as guilty of this as men and it truly does amaze me how both will think cheating is going to solve anything! It baffles me to think anyone would rather seek the consolable intimacy of another instead of talking open and honestly with the one they love. To even entertain the notion that there is any viable reason for cheating is ridiculous.

The plain and obvious fact is cheating is not a small thing. It is a combination of so many wrongs and those that cheat never consider just what they are doing. Cheating is all these things in one very ugly action.

Lying, manipulating, deception, selfishness, abandonment, hurtful, shameful and more.

I think you get my point. The one very clear issue in a cheating person is an overwhelming sense of "entitlement"! The cheater feels they are entitled to happiness and will seek it and not care about the consequences of their selfish needs.

The worst part of cheating is that the one cheated on immediately suffers the most agonizing hurt and betrayal they will ever know. Sooner or later this person is going to entertain the thought that it is right to cheat on the one who cheated on them.
Well, two wrongs will never make anything right. As much as those cheated on may say it makes them feel a sense of reconciliation or vindication, may not grasp the fact they made an even worse decision then the one who cheated on them did.

Why do I say this? Simply because of the fact this person now has sunk to the very same level of indiscretion and wrong as the one who cheated on them did. Letting yourself become the same as the one you are angry at, feel contempt for, and may even despise makes you just as guilty of being manipulating and selfish.

Cheaters never think about anyone but themselves and never consider the hurt and pain they create in those they cheat on. I know first hand what it feels like to be cheated on and can say it is the hardest thing to ever trust and love again after it happens.