Hello dear reader :)
Wish you a great day/evening.
There's about a 100-130 people who I interact with daily, and can say that I know them well. Not quite Dunbar's number, but whatever)
How big is yours???)))It honestly doesn't matter how big is your circle, but with how much of people from your circle you spend 80% of your time with.
On average we're spending most of our time with 3–5 people, so we should make sure that we only spend time with best people, right?
To me that isn't true. By saying so you would assume that those who are broken or having a tough time aren’t worth it.
What if we all started choosing our circle of friends only by their income or social status? Does it still matter if you don't have quality interactions with them? Who would be your best friend, and how far down would you be on their list of "great people".
No, I'm not saying that you should get rid of your closest friends, and come help everyone in need, that would be silly :)
But if you spend most of your time with those 3-5 people, make sure that your interaction are of good quality)
Everyone has a concept by which they personally determine who should be in their closest circle, even subconcioussly you are more likely to be friends with people who match your concept of well being.
I don’t like the idea of measuring someone’s quality solely on what you want from them.
For me it's the quality of interaction! Laughing, talking non-sense, solving problems, finding solutions... and so on.
When I realized that I enjoy it, I stopped being afraid of new people in my life, and talk to everyone like I knew them for ages!
It's interesting how growing up, and getting older makes you appriciate material side of things less, and think about other people's feelings more.
You become better as a person when you stop looking for advantage in people, and I confident that my future husband will think the same!
Daria